don't put up with it,if you aren't happy then leave him;as you said life is too short!What do I do?, help please - I could do with some advice?
Thank you alll for your opinions. I have taken them to heart. I am going to see the doctor and see what he suggests. Then I will speak with my partner and tell him how I am feeling and see what happens.
Thanks again. You have all helped. x
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well my friend has been in the same situation. and he recons that itrs not the relationship its the loss your feeling it makes you feel like no one understands you. greaf can be a very personal thing and you may feel like your the only one that feels the way you do. his partner was with him all the way trew the sudden death of his mother. but he noticed he couldnt talk to her after because the felt he was on his own. and im guessing you feel the same way. but just remember your not ok. if he means anything to you he will listen to your problem and try his dam hardest to put things right. if not then you need to put him straight and dont let it fester because thats the end of your relationship ...plus your social life will suffer and maybe yo9u need to take control of it by organising a night out and trying to sort things out by havin a laugh together like when you started seeing each other. well i hope this helps.
He sounds like an @ss, you are wasting your precious time with him...move on babe.
take the bull by the horns. sit your partner down and tell him what you feel.see what he as to say.about the situation.you still might be grieving and your world is upside down at the present.and your in a depress state of mind.
It's time you accepted the loss of the loved one, you have so much to live for but your grief is giving you a very grim perspective.
Get a holiday, it doesn't have to be expensive, if blackpool is all you can afford, so be it.
Stay away for two or three weeks if you can then when you come back you can renew your relationships, or not, its up to you.
First sorry for your loss. This life can be hell sometimes, but tomorrow comes. The best choice you can make is one of consideration and love. Talk to your partner and let him know your feelings, if he loves you you will see a change you need or an understanding it's time. Always try to show in the end as you did in the start, that your intentions are and always were of sincerity.
Honesty cannot be beaten in any circumstance.
hi sorry for your loss , when you loose somebody close in our lives its natural to have a good look at out own lives , you are obvoiusly not happy with your partner sweetie , you are existing at the moment not living , you need to find the courage somehow to leave this guy and start thinking about your own life and what you really want , your children will be fine they will find it hard at first but when they see how happy and more confident their mum has become they will be too, be strong follow your instincts what to do , you will make new friends so dont feel alone , good luck and if you need a friend to chat to feel free to email me , good luck x
Perhaps if you found a hobby, joined a group or something it would help your relationship. If you (or both of you) have very few interests outside of the home then what is there to talk about? Making some new friends and meeting new people will also help with building your confidence and maybe this would be a factor in your decision about whether to stay or not. I know when you're unhappy its the easiest thing in the world to just shut off from everyone and everything but sometimes its nice just to have another perspective about things - like asking on here!
Failing that, you'd have some new friends to go to the pub with and drown your sorrows! Its always worked for me.....!
Talk to him .
Hi.
It can take a great deal of time to 'get over' losing someone. In fact, I don't believe we ever 'get over' it, we just learn to move on with our lives whilst still experiencing the loss. - We sort of assimilate it. But this feeling of loss and grief can affect the way you react to other people. - It can cause depression. I think the first thing you need to do is to ask your children and your partner how they think you are reacting and see what they say. - Invariably someone suffering a depressive state, is the last person who becomes aware of it. - It sounds as though you are just beginning to be aware and to want to change things, which is a positive sign; - but I think you may be transferring the responsibility for the way you feel onto your partner.
So the first thibg to do is to talk to your doctor, - telll him/her how you are feeling and let them decide whether you need some temporary assistance.
Secondly, talk to your partner. Be open and honest and ask him how he feels. He may be having problems too and a lack of communication could be compounding both your situations. Prepare him for what you want to say and ask him to be considered and gentle in his responses.
I think you will find you are suffering from mild depression. I bet you feel worse in the morning and improve slightly as the day goes on?
Think about what I have said, and good luck!
B
Its really difficult when you lose someone that is special to you. You are surround by many mixed emotions, anger, heartache,grievence and resentment. Death does not give you time to prepare yourself, it just bombards you with all this mixed emotions. It awful, I know the feeling...but on earth we are all not meant to stay forever! We all have to leave sometime sooner or later. Accepting ones death is a duanting task, but you have to come to terms with it and know that he/she is in a much better place in the arms of God! I think your partner should try and understand that this isnt a walk in the park for you and should show some moral support, if he aint gona do it...then the question you should ask yourself ';does he really love you';.....and if he aint supporting you in the time you need him the most then sweetheart I think that answers your question!!!
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