You are definitely not alone. My boyfriend broke up with me 2 weeks ago at my 3rd month of pregnancy. I did nothing wrong. Another woman called me from his cell phone. Apparently he was cheating on me with her for at least 2 months. He lied to her and told her that he broke up with me two months ago and that he knows nothing about a pregnancy. I guess she bought his lies and that they are a couple while the baby and I are left in the dust.
At first I was devastated; however, at least I know the truth and can move on with my life without being fooled. I am a religious person and despite the fact that this pregnancy is not going in an ideal fashion, I believe God must have a plan. God has a plan for all of us mothers who have tremendous strength while the fathers of our babies punk out, either due to fear or weakness.
Our maternal nature is a blessing to us and our children. God will look favorably on us for doing the right thing, while the fathers who do not do the right thing will be judged for their cowardice.
Be Strong. We will get the love we deserve from our children and from the right man when the time is appointed by the Almighty.
Advice/Help, Heartbroken while Pregnant.
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I'm sorry to hear that, it must be really hard on you. But the truth is, nothing any of us can say will make u feel better, the facts are still the same. All you need to think about is you and your baby. It is his loss that he has lost you both and i'm sure he will regret it at some point. Take strength from the fact u are going to have a beautiful little baby, and he/she will never leave you. Put all your time and energy spent on thinking of him into something positive like planning the babys nursery. It will still hurt, but your pain will start to ease as time goes by. Just try to keep yourself occupied. What helped me in the past when i broke up with someone was to list all the things bad about them, or things they did against u, it helps you see things in a more balanced positive way. I wish u and your baby good luck.
I'm sorry to hear that and I know you might have already heard this but the only thing you can do is get over it. He doesn't want you and that's your gain in the long run. If he didn't stick around now he was never going to and that would have been harder on the baby. Just think of what a wonderful person your gonna have in your life very soon. Oh and I bet it sucks to see him partying and everything but once the baby is here and you take him to court and suck him dry with child support he probably won't be able to go out very much. Good Luck!!
Im sorry that you have to go through this, I was 3 months pregnant when the Dad left me. It hurts but you do get over it. Now im 39 weeks pregnant and no word from him. I know its hard but try not to think about him or worry about what he is doing. Just worry about taking care of you and your baby. If you all are meant to be together he will come back. But if not take it as a blessing him being gone. I wish you all the luck in the world. And congrats on you going to have a little baby there such joy.
I am so sorry to hear that. It will hurt really bad for awhile but just remember it will get better. You will get over him and move on and find someone better who will be a good husband and lover to you and a good daddy and provider for your baby. I know that right now it feels like you will never feel better again but you will, Good luck and congrats on that baby. Take care of yourself and your baby
i am 29 weeks and my babysdaddy broke it off with me in the beginning of my pregnancy dated another girl then tryied to get back with me then thought he got another girl pregnant a month ago. i kno the pain your feeling and its easier said then done but u really should just think about you and that baby right now... not him. all a baby needs is their momma anyway =]
good luck to you
Listen I have been there and I am there again with our second child. The only thing you can do is take it one day at a time. It will get better with time trust me. You will never fully get over it but it does get better. If you need to talk to anyone you can email me and I will let you know what all I have done to get over it. Also, look at it this way: You got the best thing that he had to offer you. That is also how I looked at it. You know what it is true. You got the best thing he had to offer you and it is his loss.
I am so sorry that you are going threw this I know what it is like to be left while you are pregnant. My advice for you is to deal with it the best that you can but you can't get that stressed out I almost lost my baby that way. If you need some one to vent to you can contact me davidsfreak@yahoo.com
Wow that is awe full. What was his excuse? Don't call him and if he calls don't answer every time if you want him back.Though any guy that would leave someone when they are pregnant I don't know if I would want them back.I am really sorry. I wish you the best and will keep you in my prayers.
I am sooo sorry that you have to deal with this during what is supposed to be the happiest time in your life! You are a mom now. You are strong and you can pick yourself up and do this. Show this child that it's mother is strong, independant and willing to do anything for him/her. Even though baby isn't here yet, it can feel your love for it. Talk to your doctor at your next visit and hopefully they can help!! Good luck!!
I'm sorry. =[
I believe in the quote ';what doesn't kill you only makes you stronger';. So stay strong.
I know it's not much help but there's plenty of pregnant girls on here to share your ups and down with... =]
And get out and do something! You're pregnant - not dead! You don't have to drink to have fun. Do something YOU like to do. If you focus on your baby and making yourself happy, you'll get through this.
I am sorry to hear that you are having a bad time. At this point, you are going to have to think about yourself and what you have to do to make sure you are alright. Talk to friends and family to help you in your situation. If you are seeking confort, they are the best people to go to.
im sorry hun. I know how you feel though im still married to mine. And he goes out with his buds every chance he gets. Thy just dont give a sh*t. Just try your best to think about the baby and yourself. Thats all you can do.
im sorry to hear that your world is turning upside down like this. it's hard to do deal with crap like that in life let alone deal with it when dealing with preggie hormones. i can't do much but send you a virual hug {{{}}}
I'm so sorry you're going through this. What a jerk to up and leave you like that! Just stay strong and know that you will be a wonderful mother!
WOW!!! THE SAME thing happened to me! I was only 9 weeks, but 10 weeks when I got it confirmed! I was so sad and cried and even cried like crazy the day before I went to the ER (i went in for severe cramps), but once I saw that baby on the screen I forgot about my sadness... I was okay for about a couple of days until I saw the father to give him a copy of the sonogram. Then they all came back! Our baby was wanted and planned and then when he just bailed on me. He's shown interest in being part of the baby's life... calling me crying (confusing me even more) and his family tell me to give him time that he'll come around. I know he goes out every weekend like crazy and drinks... and I just recently found out he's been messing around with some one chic. He won't admit it to me but I know... I know it's hard and easier said then done, but just try and focus on you and the baby. The baby feels everything you feel. I have my moments and I feel so alone at times. Even though I have my familys support and his family as well, I still feel lonley. He just completely changed it's like I dont even know him. In time I know him leaving me was the best thing he could have done. If you need someone to chat with you can email me @ neyda_r@yahoo.com. I'll keep you in my prayers. Hopefully he'll wake up and realize he's missing out on the most beautiful moment of his life and ya can work things out.
Pity you. He's a real JERK to leave you. Damn him.
Crying every night won't help you get anyway. Cying every night would give side effects to the baby... your baby might look sad when he/she is born. So,get on with your life, find something to do to make yourself busy, instead of thinking being hurt. Go out and hang out with some good friends who are willing to be a good listener and share your feelings. You would feel better when you release your anger.
Think about the bright future of you and your baby. Be happy. Unless you are willing to give the baby away for adoption later.
Meanwhile, take great care of yourself and the little one inside. He/she is the LIGHT to your life....
I am SOOO sorry. I know how devastating a break up can be, and you're right, your hormones probably are not helping any. Do you and he still talk? I hope for the baby's sake the two of you can try to be friends. All I can say is cry when you want, talk to those who care so you don't keep anything bottled up inside you, and concentrate on that wonderful miracle growing inside you! Your baby will always love you, and that love is way better than any man's love. Spend time planning the nursery (or the baby's area in your room), google for baby names, read up on your pregnancy week by week (online or in books), look at ultrasound pictures to see what stage your baby is at, just fill as much of your free time with thoughts of that precious bundle of joy. In every time of heartache, there is something good that can come from it. Sometimes you just have to look for it. I wish you all the luck you need. Stay strong and positive. Do it for yourself and your baby! I don't know you, but you sound like you have a big heart full of love. That baby is lucky to have you!!!! So please, take just one moment and SMILE!!! You can do it!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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