Please help Advice ?

It is said that in islam that it's not good to be mad at a person for more than three years .Well me and my friend have not talk for a couple years and now she has asked for my forgivness ,being the bigger person i said i will forgive you if you for give me and she said yes . But now i really dont know how to start a conversation with someone i haven talk to in years please help anything will be fine (appraiat).Please help Advice ?
You are not allowed to be mad at someone and not say Salam to them for more than three days, not years. I understand what it feels like, the awkwardness of it all. The first step would be just to say Salam, ask how she/he is doing, and then moving on longer conversations (not all at once). It's basically like getting to know someone all over again, but a lot more difficult since you've had a bad history. Just try to pretend nothing ever happened and that your meeting for the first time, or that you haven't seen each other for a while and you want to catch up on things. Though, it wouldn't hurt to ask how he/she has been and what new things have come up. Get together for coffee, lunch, or whatever works best for you. Take baby steps. Islamically, you don't have to become best friends, but you cannot ignore him/her and try not to hold any grudges. You don't have to start a conversation if you don't want to, but it's always best you take care of things while you can. It won't all just flow together, you're bound to get stuck, feel awkward, and not know what to say. So expect that, and things will go well after a few get togethers. If it helps, bring another friend along, but not on the first couple of times.





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Yes, three days =)





You can't sit by men if they aren't related to you via immediate family. But, if you have a Mahram it should be okay, so long as you are not sitting right next to a man and engaging in conversations outside of school/work/business.Please help Advice ?
I think you should really search deep in yourself if you鈥檝e really forgiven her or not, if you haven鈥檛 completely forgiven her you have to spend time with yourself trying to forgive her and surely to remember that maybe your palace in paradise would be just because of this forgiveness, I believe forgiving somebody for the sake of Allah only is a wonderful thing and it鈥檚 really gives a feeling that cannot be described.


I believe brining her a little present, maybe something she really likes would be excellent, give her the present say Salamu Alikum dear and I think all will follow very easily and remember the present you鈥檙e bringing her is for the sake of Allah.


A small advise don鈥檛 try by any means talking about old problems just put it behind.


Lastly I like to say the story of the man whom the profit Mohamed said that he鈥檚 going to paradise and when another friend of profit Mohamed followed him and spent the night with him he couldn鈥檛 notice anything difference in what he does, so when he asked the man he said that he doesn鈥檛 do anything different than any body but he only sleep with nothing in his hear to any Muslim鈥? He won paradise just by that.



3 years I would start with ';so what have you been up to lately?';
you can start by like... how is ure family doing? or have u met other friends lately? howz life been all these years? just start off... starting is a good point only :)~!
you can start by saying Salam Alaykm...that always helps
It's three days not years!!
well its so simple. you both are females just sit beside her.





How two females can sit quiet? ;)