I'm on birth control I take it like I'm supposed to all the time. I have never had unprotected sex until this once (around April 5th cannot remeber exact day) jus happened I know it was stupid but nothing I can do now. So the day after I had the unprotected sex I got my period probably like 6-7 hours after actually. I bleed for a couple hours then nothing until 2 days later and I got what seemed to be a normal period. A week later I took a pregnancy test and it came up negative. I got what seemed to be a normal period at the beginning of this month too. (I've heard that some women still have their period and are pregnant) Now I'm not really sure what the symptoms are but after my period in April for like a week I had really sore breasts and they seemed bigger to me not sure if its my imagination or what but they do. Also I have this feeling I'm super full all the time but I get hungry too but always feel full. And today is the only day I've had a really bad headache. No sickness at allMaybe pregnant 17yrs old? Help, advice, whatever?
Kiddo.... go to the doctor and stop having sex!
Chlamydia (sp?) often gives false symptoms of pregnancy. I would say if you're on the pill you're *fairly* (NOT 100%) safe... from pregnancy.Maybe pregnant 17yrs old? Help, advice, whatever?
Get another pregnancy test
If you've gotten two seemingly normal periods since the unprotected sex then more than likely you are not pregnant. But stranger things have happened. Yes it's true that *some* women might experience periods while pregnant but it's usually not a full-force ';normal'; period and it's also rather rare.
The symptoms you are experiencing more than likely would also not be present this early in a pregnancy, even if you were pregnant. Headaches and sore breasts can be the sign of any hormonal change and can simply be a symptom of your periods.
Buy another pregnancy test or go to Planned Parenthood for a test to be sure... and then relax about it... And always use protection from now on if you're not wanting a baby.
Good luck!
It could be the BC causing some changes in your body - that is common. If you haven't taken a second test, do so just to answer that question. You need to go talk to your Doctor either way - it is possible that the cramping and other problems are something serious, like an STD or a cancer.
You're still young, so your body is still growing, it could be that your breasts are sore because they are growing, and you're hungry because you are growing.
I doubt you are pregnant, but talk to your doctor to figure out what IS going on.
wait til one month of not having a period and then go get tested.
You could go to a free clinic and be tested.
But it sounds to me like you're fine. I've heard of people's bodies changing due to mental stress. So if you're stressing over being pregnant your body could just be adjusting. However, you should wait a little while longer and if your periods are still regular and the test it still negative, don't worry. I'm sure you're fine.
First of all it sounds like you wanna get pregnant, i had a baby at your age and trust me its no fun. i hope you are not trying to get pregnant because you are stupid if you are.
sounds like the birth control doing a number on your hormones esp if your body is still trying to get adjusted to it. I don't think you are pregnant, but to be on the safe side get another test. Good luck!!!
Hi I would definately be seeing a doctor. Im not saying that you are pregnant as this may not be the case. Worrying over things like a pregnancy can interfere with your menstrual cycle by delaying it or making it irregular. Being on birth control and taking it properly is a good contraceptive but like all contraceptives nothing is 100% effective. I would say to see a doctor though, even if you are not pregnant as it may be something else making your period out of whack. I'd say it is because you are stressing over it though, stress can make our body do weird things. I had a baby at 17, and I wouldnt change things for the world. Always know that there will always be people to help you and support you through a pregnancy and the birth.I think you are worrying though which is causing the irregularities. Good Luck :)
well u should go to a clinic so they can do the blood test just to make sure if you are or not, but when i got pregnant my symptons were sore breast... wow big time.... i oculdnt even move, but if you gor ut preiod wellmaybe ur sore because of that.... andu get cramps also
I highly doubt that you are pregnant if you got your period twice already and are on the pill. Its probably the stress thats giving you the symptoms, or sometimes even when you miss a dose of the pill it throws your body out of whack. If you want to know 100 percent go get a blood test. Your parents dont have to know becuase of the doctor patient confidentiality. STOP HAVING UNPROTECTED SEX YOU CAN GET AIDS AND DIE!!
If you are on birth control, your pregnancy test was negative, and you are getting your period, you are not pregnant. You may be so stressed out that you are convincing yourself that you have symptoms that don't exist.
Yes you could be pregnant, there's always that small chance. It just takes that one time. Bleeding right after the egg emplanting is normal for some people. Light cramping was normal for me. You should take another test. If you are, you need to stop the pill and call your doc to let them know. If you are having a neg test and still having problems, cramping, bleeding off and on, you need to go in for a check up. STD's, Aids,,,,,Hepatitis,,,,,,all BAD things you don't want. STD's could mimic signs of pregnancy. You shouldn't be having sex, if you aren't prepared for consequences of possibly raising a child. You are still young and have much to do,,,,go to college....good job...so forth. Value yourself and what you are worth, not just by what you got between your legs.
Good luck to you.
I think your mind is playing tricks on you. You made a mistake by having unprotected sex, causing you to be freaked out about the possibility of being pregnant.
But just to be safe, take another pregnancy test. And I suggest you at least wait until you've finished high school to have sex (if you wait until age 20, you reduce your chances of cervical cancer), because birth control doesn't always work. Do you really want to deal with a baby at your age?
oh no
If you've had what feel like normal pregnancies, the little changes you've noticed might just be your body regulating. Being 17, you're still young enough that changes in your cycle are considered pretty normal. Sometimes my breasts are visibly larger either the week before or after my period, it's just part of the process.
If you think there's something going on, get a doctor's appointment. If you can, keep a log of your periods and what you think is different each month, it will help the doctor figure out if anything's wrong. Keep in mind that your cycle is affected by everything from the weather to stress, so if you think something's wrong, that could cause enough stress to alter your cycle. So don't worry yet, until you know you have something to worry about. Best of luck to you, whatever the outcome.
If you suspect the test are wrong, the only way to be totally positive about a pregnancy is to get a blood test. Is there a free clinic you can go to? Either way you should consult a nurse or doctor because if you are not pregnant these symptoms could be a sign of some other ailment.
if you are on the pill, and you take the pill everyday at the hour you have chosen, there is a very very very small chance of you actually getting pregnant. so small it`s not even taken into consideration.
so i advice you to calm down, if your period is coming and the test came up negative you are not pregnant.
best way to be 100% sure is to go to a gynecologist and he`ll make the pregnancy test, which is more accurate than the ones we buy in stores, and also answer your questions better than any of us (unless there is an gynecologist answering in yahoo).
i think your just going through a change in your cycle. Its normal to start having PMS symptoms around this age...you'll get pregnancy like symptoms like nausea, sensitive to smells, fatigue and bloating along with cramps. These symptoms as pregnancy usually start around after your late. Not before you start. I think your ok. Just keep track of your symptoms and your cycle so you know when its about to start.
Could just be you need to change pills.
If you think you might be pregnant, go get a blood test at the doctor, and if it comes up negitive, which it probably will, explain the symptoms to your doctor.
I had some break through bleeding, one almost absent period, and I was crampy, bloated and really moody the week before my period on my last formulation. I took a pregnancy test once to make sure, but it was negitive and I had a normal cycle for a couple months and then experienced the same problem.
There are tons of formulations and sometimes they just need to be swapped out.
I have been on 4 different formulations myself. Your hormones are constantly changing, especially at your age.
If you haven't been on the pill very long, it's possible that what you're seeing is just side effects of being on the pill. My hormones got pretty wonky when I took those.
Friday, April 30, 2010
I need help choosing a new laptop does anyone have some good advice in the thousand dollar range?
i am thinking dell, sony, or hpI need help choosing a new laptop does anyone have some good advice in the thousand dollar range?
Brand just doesn't matter - they all make junk and all make good models
I suggest Dell only because you can configure online all the exact components which should be:
1. any dual core CPU
2. any dedicated graphics such as ATI 3650 or NVidia 8600
3. any 7200 rpm hard drive
4. 4 gig of ram
It is unclear if those simple specs can be achieved for thousand dollars but you can poke around in the ';Dell Coupons'; link at notebookreview.com
Dell Studio 15 or 17 might be a possibility if you can configure it as above. Sometimes you have to talk to a Dell rep to get the right config and also they can deal on the price a bit...
I need help choosing a new laptop does anyone have some good advice in the thousand dollar range?
Try ebay... theres thousands on sale on ebay.. thats the wonder of ebay...whiteheads
Brand just doesn't matter - they all make junk and all make good models
I suggest Dell only because you can configure online all the exact components which should be:
1. any dual core CPU
2. any dedicated graphics such as ATI 3650 or NVidia 8600
3. any 7200 rpm hard drive
4. 4 gig of ram
It is unclear if those simple specs can be achieved for thousand dollars but you can poke around in the ';Dell Coupons'; link at notebookreview.com
Dell Studio 15 or 17 might be a possibility if you can configure it as above. Sometimes you have to talk to a Dell rep to get the right config and also they can deal on the price a bit...
I need help choosing a new laptop does anyone have some good advice in the thousand dollar range?
Try ebay... theres thousands on sale on ebay.. thats the wonder of ebay...
I play golf and i have hte WORST tan lines on my arms and legs. any advice to help me even it out?
OMG!! I totally had this problem when I played golf, lol...it doees really suck doesn't it? All of the other girls on my golf team never got such bad tan lines as I did, because my skin just tans very well. I mostly just didn't wear flip flops with shorts or capris, I would wear them with jeans and stuff...I just always covered up my lines so people couldn't see them. You could try a sunless tanner product, but be careful if you use it on your feet, I tryed that once, and it turned them this nasty orangeish color that looked awful!! You could just try going swimming and stuff to even out the color naturally, but idk...w/e you wanna try, go for it.I play golf and i have hte WORST tan lines on my arms and legs. any advice to help me even it out?
for now you can puteither high SPF on your tan part and see if that evens it out or put on self tannerI play golf and i have hte WORST tan lines on my arms and legs. any advice to help me even it out?
use a self tanner machine or buy self tanning lotion, buy jergens or dove. make sure you wash your hands or : hello orange hands.
for now you can puteither high SPF on your tan part and see if that evens it out or put on self tannerI play golf and i have hte WORST tan lines on my arms and legs. any advice to help me even it out?
use a self tanner machine or buy self tanning lotion, buy jergens or dove. make sure you wash your hands or : hello orange hands.
Advice to help me with a boy mate please?
I've got a boy mate who I'm really close to. He really likes girl who he's been dating on and off for ages and she always treats him like rubbish, but he always takes her back. Although me %26amp; our other mates have tried to help him get over her, I'm not sure if he ever will. I always hope he'll see sense but I don't think he can see how horrible she is, what should I do?Advice to help me with a boy mate please?
sounds like he is in love and only he will be able to see her faults when he is ready....Advice to help me with a boy mate please?
Lol, i have a boy mate like this too.
His lass has flirted wi loadsa other guys in the past [apparently one she asked sum1 else out when she was going out wi sum1]. Well basically i told him what me and my mate thort of her and that we thort he could do so much better than her, but guess what he said, 'i cant dump her i love her too much'. Anyway hes still wi her, and all that..yeh. But to be honest i dont think there is much you can do about this, until it comes to a point when he actually sez 'iv had enough, and then tells her where to shove it' xo
this sounds like your mate really likes this girl and wants to go out with her. you cant do anything to help him get over her even though you want to help. sooner or later he will relaise and see through her.
Did you like him? it sounds like you were. thats ok!
I say if care too much about him, and he himself does not care, I guess you should'nt try.
hmm... Having been in your situation and knowing its not easy, i really sympathise. The best thing to do is to tell your friend that you dont like his girlfriend, but your not trying to split them up. And then be there for when it all ends in tears.
sounds like he is in love and only he will be able to see her faults when he is ready....Advice to help me with a boy mate please?
Lol, i have a boy mate like this too.
His lass has flirted wi loadsa other guys in the past [apparently one she asked sum1 else out when she was going out wi sum1]. Well basically i told him what me and my mate thort of her and that we thort he could do so much better than her, but guess what he said, 'i cant dump her i love her too much'. Anyway hes still wi her, and all that..yeh. But to be honest i dont think there is much you can do about this, until it comes to a point when he actually sez 'iv had enough, and then tells her where to shove it' xo
this sounds like your mate really likes this girl and wants to go out with her. you cant do anything to help him get over her even though you want to help. sooner or later he will relaise and see through her.
Did you like him? it sounds like you were. thats ok!
I say if care too much about him, and he himself does not care, I guess you should'nt try.
hmm... Having been in your situation and knowing its not easy, i really sympathise. The best thing to do is to tell your friend that you dont like his girlfriend, but your not trying to split them up. And then be there for when it all ends in tears.
Need some potty training help/advice please!!!?
My 18 month old girl keep telling me soon as she's had a poo or even just a wee that she needs her nappy changing!! I've been told this is a good sign to start potty training - i thought it a bit young - maybe not though!! I have no idea where to start! Please help!!Need some potty training help/advice please!!!?
Well, she's definitely ready if she is telling you to change her nappy. If it's summertime where you are put some undies on her, or training pants. Let her run around outside and remind her to tell you when she needs to go. She's going to have (lots) of accidents but this will be a true indicator if she's ready or not. Good luck!Need some potty training help/advice please!!!?
Well ma'am I am 13 for starters and am also a red-cross babysitter with a license and ma'am your daughter needs tough love sit her on a Special potty seat in front of the tv and she has to stay there until she poops or pees and gets a hour off then back on again and repeat this until she has it down pact and in no time she'll be right on track and also the more often she goes the more time you give her off it's a win win to me I have also did this for 4 of the kids I babysat and the parents loved it by the way you could choose whether or not you want to serve her breakfast and lunch there or at the table!!
Yes she's definitely showing the signs of a toddler who's ready to potty train. First introduce the potty to her, you can get books that introduce potties or you could sit her doll on the potty for example, just so it isn't daunting. If she attends nursery they can give you some tips and work together with you to train her. Be prepared for potty training to take time. Good luck!
My 16 month old just started doing that too. My husband went out and bought her a potty. We left it in her play area for a few days and talked to her about it saying that its a potty and its for big girls and asking her if she wants to sit on it. After a few days of playing with it and getting comfortable with it, we put it in the bathroom. Now we ask her all the time if she needs to go potty and if she wants to try and sit on her potty. Sometimes she will sometimes she wont. But when she tells us she is dirty while we change her we talk to her about how she did potty in her diaper and next time try and tell us before she goes and she can go like a big girl in her potty. I've also started putting her on her potty at times I know she needs to go like when she first wakes up, before and after nap, and before bath time. She sits for a while we sing potty songs and read a potty book. When she does go we praise her a lot and make it a big deal. She smiles and seems proud of herself. We are no where close but were starting to introduce it to her.
i introduced the potty to my daughter at 15 mos before she told me she had to go, go get her a potty and sit it in the bathroom. let her go to the bathroom with you. let her sit on the potty to if she wants. but start putting her on the potty as soon as she wakes up until she pees. if she hasnt peed in the first half hour give her a half hour break and do it again. the first time she pees or poos in it act like your favorite team just one the super bowl and praise the heck out her. she ll love it and want to do it more. my daughter was completely potty trained by 23 mos good luck
if she is telling you that she is dirty and that she will be ready a her pants and summer is the best time to teach her also she will have some accidents don't worry she will get there i started my we boy age 2 and hes now out of them even at night age 3
Well, she's definitely ready if she is telling you to change her nappy. If it's summertime where you are put some undies on her, or training pants. Let her run around outside and remind her to tell you when she needs to go. She's going to have (lots) of accidents but this will be a true indicator if she's ready or not. Good luck!Need some potty training help/advice please!!!?
Well ma'am I am 13 for starters and am also a red-cross babysitter with a license and ma'am your daughter needs tough love sit her on a Special potty seat in front of the tv and she has to stay there until she poops or pees and gets a hour off then back on again and repeat this until she has it down pact and in no time she'll be right on track and also the more often she goes the more time you give her off it's a win win to me I have also did this for 4 of the kids I babysat and the parents loved it by the way you could choose whether or not you want to serve her breakfast and lunch there or at the table!!
Yes she's definitely showing the signs of a toddler who's ready to potty train. First introduce the potty to her, you can get books that introduce potties or you could sit her doll on the potty for example, just so it isn't daunting. If she attends nursery they can give you some tips and work together with you to train her. Be prepared for potty training to take time. Good luck!
My 16 month old just started doing that too. My husband went out and bought her a potty. We left it in her play area for a few days and talked to her about it saying that its a potty and its for big girls and asking her if she wants to sit on it. After a few days of playing with it and getting comfortable with it, we put it in the bathroom. Now we ask her all the time if she needs to go potty and if she wants to try and sit on her potty. Sometimes she will sometimes she wont. But when she tells us she is dirty while we change her we talk to her about how she did potty in her diaper and next time try and tell us before she goes and she can go like a big girl in her potty. I've also started putting her on her potty at times I know she needs to go like when she first wakes up, before and after nap, and before bath time. She sits for a while we sing potty songs and read a potty book. When she does go we praise her a lot and make it a big deal. She smiles and seems proud of herself. We are no where close but were starting to introduce it to her.
i introduced the potty to my daughter at 15 mos before she told me she had to go, go get her a potty and sit it in the bathroom. let her go to the bathroom with you. let her sit on the potty to if she wants. but start putting her on the potty as soon as she wakes up until she pees. if she hasnt peed in the first half hour give her a half hour break and do it again. the first time she pees or poos in it act like your favorite team just one the super bowl and praise the heck out her. she ll love it and want to do it more. my daughter was completely potty trained by 23 mos good luck
if she is telling you that she is dirty and that she will be ready a her pants and summer is the best time to teach her also she will have some accidents don't worry she will get there i started my we boy age 2 and hes now out of them even at night age 3
What i am tring to say is i want out i need help advice i'm currently in a absuive realtionship?
Get out asap. If he is abusing you he doesnt love you or respact you no matter what you think.
it is never ok eventually it will turn to Physical if it hasnt already. tell your friend or parents
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The most important thing is to get a safe place and
be firm with him and tell him its over.
Dont let him minipulate you stay strongWhat i am tring to say is i want out i need help advice i'm currently in a absuive realtionship?
Go to your parents, if you live with him and you explain to them, they'll let you come home and dump him till you get back on your feet, they're there to help.What i am tring to say is i want out i need help advice i'm currently in a absuive realtionship?
go to ur friends house call him on the phone tell him its over...then the next day go to the police and file a report..im sorry this has happened to u but u need to get him off the streets so he doesnt do this to another girl good luck girl =)
you need to go to someone and ask them if you can stay at their house till you get on your feet. parents freinds anyone. make sure when you move you do it when he's not home and you have time to get your things. if you think it'll be a problem get the cops involved.
Leave him/her go to DHS for help if you need to before it is to late. I would not want to here about a tragic death on the news. Please get out before it is to late.
it is never ok eventually it will turn to Physical if it hasnt already. tell your friend or parents
i dont know the whole situation but
please e-mail me
i have training in this and i could help you more
and give you help lines.
The most important thing is to get a safe place and
be firm with him and tell him its over.
Dont let him minipulate you stay strongWhat i am tring to say is i want out i need help advice i'm currently in a absuive realtionship?
Go to your parents, if you live with him and you explain to them, they'll let you come home and dump him till you get back on your feet, they're there to help.What i am tring to say is i want out i need help advice i'm currently in a absuive realtionship?
go to ur friends house call him on the phone tell him its over...then the next day go to the police and file a report..im sorry this has happened to u but u need to get him off the streets so he doesnt do this to another girl good luck girl =)
you need to go to someone and ask them if you can stay at their house till you get on your feet. parents freinds anyone. make sure when you move you do it when he's not home and you have time to get your things. if you think it'll be a problem get the cops involved.
Leave him/her go to DHS for help if you need to before it is to late. I would not want to here about a tragic death on the news. Please get out before it is to late.
What is your advice for helping someone feel good about the way they feel when They are down?
Always remember '; This too shall pass ';. If you recognize that you are down then start working your self out of it. Do something..Go out with friends,walk the dogs,read,get into a house cleaning frenzy. Most of the time we get down because we are not busy..We have too much time to think and wallow in self pity ----so mentally dig a hole and bury that feeling and those negative thoughts and put on some up beat music and start dancing...Get busy..The down want have a chance..All things work out in the end...This too shall pass.What is your advice for helping someone feel good about the way they feel when They are down?
A big hug and a listening ear.What is your advice for helping someone feel good about the way they feel when They are down?
always look on the bright side of life
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lifes a piece on s h i t when you look at it....
Look at yourself in the mirror, feel sorry for yourself, then cry until you can't cry no more.... that's how I used to make myself feel better when I was younger. Now I get mad, cry, then move on.
well before i'd give that person some advice, i would encourage him/her to talk about it and cry if you must. then i would tell him/her God wouldn't make you feel this way if you aren't strong enough to get through it.
Tell them to look in the mirror and point out all the good things about him/her.
ex) nice eyes, funny, smart, long legs, skinny, muscular, kind, etc.
That always works for everyone I know!
A big hug and a listening ear.What is your advice for helping someone feel good about the way they feel when They are down?
always look on the bright side of life
du du du du
always look on the bright side of life
du du du du
lifes a piece on s h i t when you look at it....
Look at yourself in the mirror, feel sorry for yourself, then cry until you can't cry no more.... that's how I used to make myself feel better when I was younger. Now I get mad, cry, then move on.
well before i'd give that person some advice, i would encourage him/her to talk about it and cry if you must. then i would tell him/her God wouldn't make you feel this way if you aren't strong enough to get through it.
Tell them to look in the mirror and point out all the good things about him/her.
ex) nice eyes, funny, smart, long legs, skinny, muscular, kind, etc.
That always works for everyone I know!
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It's alright, but perhaps you might wanna straighten it a bit? It seriously all depends on you. What I would do is have a friend who's a girl come over and have her point out a couple things. That's usually what I do...lol. I mean I can't tell you exactly how to do you hair because I'm not there. I could suggest this though...I would say you might possibly look better with shorter hair. But if you want to keep it long, here's a few suggestions:
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dang. You definitely need to thin out those bangs quite a bit, and get a bit of a trim all around.whiteheads
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It's alright, but perhaps you might wanna straighten it a bit? It seriously all depends on you. What I would do is have a friend who's a girl come over and have her point out a couple things. That's usually what I do...lol. I mean I can't tell you exactly how to do you hair because I'm not there. I could suggest this though...I would say you might possibly look better with shorter hair. But if you want to keep it long, here's a few suggestions:
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try a buzz cut. not too short though. tell your barber to trim it using a 3 or 4. trust me it will give u a manlier look. plus its summer so do it!
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No offense but I think you may have the world's biggest nose. And I agree with squeely up there . . . eeewwwww
dang. You definitely need to thin out those bangs quite a bit, and get a bit of a trim all around.
Tortoise Help !!!!! Advice?
I already have 2 baby hermans about 2 years old in a viv , but i really want a adult hermann. I just dont know what to keep it in. I dont want it outside at the moment as its freezing and has been snowing.
what do you keep them in inside. I dont have alot of room for a big tortoise table or something. Please Help- ThanksTortoise Help !!!!! Advice?
I suggest that since you don't have room, just wait until your two babies grow..
There's nothing more stressful and irritating than living in something too small for a tortoise.
Or, you could wait untl it gets sunny outside and buy an adult one.
But then you have to remember, winter will come back again, and you will need room for an adult tortoise.
I personally don't put a place for my tortoise during the winter, I put them just inside and they pick where they want to go. They're pretty clean, but mine hibernate so yours might not.
But either way, your babies will turn into adults and you'll eventually need to find room for a big tortoise cage.Tortoise Help !!!!! Advice?
you really need space for tortoises, and since you have said you don't have room for a big table then i would stick to the two you have, your tortoises will be adults in about 5 years so you will ge the adult tortoise you want, but you have to be patient, these tortoises will be with you for the next 50 years at least so there is plenty of time to get what you want.
An adult herman needs a tortoise table which is 2ft by 4ft, tanks are not good for them, they are more geared to height rather than floor space and do not allow enough air flow in so can get a bit damp or too dusty, tortoises need plenty of space and a good air flow to stay healthy, pour all your love and care into the two tortoises you have and wait until you have enough room for another tortoise, best of luck honey
do you have a closet? some people turn there closet into a place to house ther e tortoise or snakes
Im sorry to say this but A vivarium is really bad for the majority of tortoise species..im sure you were talked into buying one of these by a pet shop or garden centre but all they were interested in was your cash ..and not the welfare of your torts.
Vivariums have glass fronts which frustrate and stress out tortoises as they can see through it but an not get through it....a little like Lions you used to see on the news walking the fences at zoos through stress and boredom.
Also many vivariums are closed in units meaning tht they have a roof on which means that the temp inside the viv does not allow for thermoregulation....basic terms means your torts can not cool down or heat up....they end up being the same temp were ever they go in the viv....which can cause loads of health problems in the long run.
Tortoise like Hermanns should live to around 120 years old ...realisticly a tort kept in a viv will eventually get a respiratory problem and will be dead or seriously ill by the age of about 10..if it survives that long.
there is hope...you can modify your viv to make it more friendly to your torts relatively easy....and cheaply for help with this and much more help and advice please get in contact with me.
I keep hermanns also....I currently have 16 but the numbers are rising as I also breed hermanns too!
I have a group deddicated to helping tortoise owners on yahoo called TORTOISE-HEALTH please try and find us and join we would be very pleased to have you on board!!
Take care
what do you keep them in inside. I dont have alot of room for a big tortoise table or something. Please Help- ThanksTortoise Help !!!!! Advice?
I suggest that since you don't have room, just wait until your two babies grow..
There's nothing more stressful and irritating than living in something too small for a tortoise.
Or, you could wait untl it gets sunny outside and buy an adult one.
But then you have to remember, winter will come back again, and you will need room for an adult tortoise.
I personally don't put a place for my tortoise during the winter, I put them just inside and they pick where they want to go. They're pretty clean, but mine hibernate so yours might not.
But either way, your babies will turn into adults and you'll eventually need to find room for a big tortoise cage.Tortoise Help !!!!! Advice?
you really need space for tortoises, and since you have said you don't have room for a big table then i would stick to the two you have, your tortoises will be adults in about 5 years so you will ge the adult tortoise you want, but you have to be patient, these tortoises will be with you for the next 50 years at least so there is plenty of time to get what you want.
An adult herman needs a tortoise table which is 2ft by 4ft, tanks are not good for them, they are more geared to height rather than floor space and do not allow enough air flow in so can get a bit damp or too dusty, tortoises need plenty of space and a good air flow to stay healthy, pour all your love and care into the two tortoises you have and wait until you have enough room for another tortoise, best of luck honey
do you have a closet? some people turn there closet into a place to house ther e tortoise or snakes
Im sorry to say this but A vivarium is really bad for the majority of tortoise species..im sure you were talked into buying one of these by a pet shop or garden centre but all they were interested in was your cash ..and not the welfare of your torts.
Vivariums have glass fronts which frustrate and stress out tortoises as they can see through it but an not get through it....a little like Lions you used to see on the news walking the fences at zoos through stress and boredom.
Also many vivariums are closed in units meaning tht they have a roof on which means that the temp inside the viv does not allow for thermoregulation....basic terms means your torts can not cool down or heat up....they end up being the same temp were ever they go in the viv....which can cause loads of health problems in the long run.
Tortoise like Hermanns should live to around 120 years old ...realisticly a tort kept in a viv will eventually get a respiratory problem and will be dead or seriously ill by the age of about 10..if it survives that long.
there is hope...you can modify your viv to make it more friendly to your torts relatively easy....and cheaply for help with this and much more help and advice please get in contact with me.
I keep hermanns also....I currently have 16 but the numbers are rising as I also breed hermanns too!
I have a group deddicated to helping tortoise owners on yahoo called TORTOISE-HEALTH please try and find us and join we would be very pleased to have you on board!!
Take care
Lifestyle help, advice or recommendations? Please.?
(5 foot six, 205 lbs, 22.5 % body fat) I'm fifteen not extremely unfit and I haven't always struggled with food. It was only recently. I do participate in sports (football, wrestling) and am willing to do what it takes. What steps can I take to get to around 7-8% body fat? All advice appreciated.Lifestyle help, advice or recommendations? Please.?
Hello,i am also 5foot six and now 189lbs but was 289lbs some six months back.Got to know a site that is operated by weight loss researchers from mayo hospital and their program did a great help to my life.I am losing weight on a daily basis while strictly following their program.I am not in any doubt it could work for you as well.However,it's worth trying if it can work for you as well.Lifestyle help, advice or recommendations? Please.?
I麓m wondering why you are suddenly struggling with food, are you having problems at school or at home? 7% body fat is dangerously low, and not realistic which is why I麓m asking if you have any problems.
Hello,i am also 5foot six and now 189lbs but was 289lbs some six months back.Got to know a site that is operated by weight loss researchers from mayo hospital and their program did a great help to my life.I am losing weight on a daily basis while strictly following their program.I am not in any doubt it could work for you as well.However,it's worth trying if it can work for you as well.Lifestyle help, advice or recommendations? Please.?
I麓m wondering why you are suddenly struggling with food, are you having problems at school or at home? 7% body fat is dangerously low, and not realistic which is why I麓m asking if you have any problems.
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ok. there is this guy. and we were friends and he was going out with this girl. and whatever. and i guess is started to like him a little, but it was a bit of flattery more than anything. and so he was still with his gf, and i didn't care. and i didn't think about liking him. and then there is this other guy. and i think that i love him. he lives in a different state and we met online. but i know that he is real. can't really explain it. but now the first guy is single and told me that i was like a perfect angel. and it really caught me off gaurd. one of his friends is a good friend of mine, and says that the guy likes me. but i really don't like him. i mean he is a swell guy, but i don't like him like that. i dont know what to do. hope you can help thanks.
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ok. there is this guy. and we were friends and he was going out with this girl. and whatever. and i guess is started to like him a little, but it was a bit of flattery more than anything. and so he was still with his gf, and i didn't care. and i didn't think about liking him. and then there is this other guy. and i think that i love him. he lives in a different state and we met online. but i know that he is real. can't really explain it. but now the first guy is single and told me that i was like a perfect angel. and it really caught me off gaurd. one of his friends is a good friend of mine, and says that the guy likes me. but i really don't like him. i mean he is a swell guy, but i don't like him like that. i dont know what to do. hope you can help thanks.
Singing help/advice/exercises?
I love to sing and I plan to make a career out of it but I've got bad lung capacity. Does anyone know any good exercises that can build lung capacity? I know that you're supposed to sing from the diaphragm something like that?-so I'm guessing that's the muscle that needs to be strengthened? And any other singing advice can help. =]
Maybe explain the whole diaphragm thing too...I missed it along the way.
Thanks~!Singing help/advice/exercises?
just push your self all the way. push your self every day. thats all i half to say becuase if your going to make it there, firs you half to picture yourself doing it. just push yourselfSinging help/advice/exercises?
Ask a vocal coach
Maybe explain the whole diaphragm thing too...I missed it along the way.
Thanks~!Singing help/advice/exercises?
just push your self all the way. push your self every day. thats all i half to say becuase if your going to make it there, firs you half to picture yourself doing it. just push yourselfSinging help/advice/exercises?
Ask a vocal coach
Can someone help me out need makeup tips and fashion advice for my male friend who is a crossdresser?
He is in his first phase of becoming a woman....so can anyone give me makeup and clothes advice to pass unto him cause he is abit confused...
thankz he and I would like your responses.xCan someone help me out need makeup tips and fashion advice for my male friend who is a crossdresser?
well first of all he needs to decide if cross dressing is something he only wishes to do in private, or if he wants to go public. dont rush into anything- take your time and think about it. If he does want to go out in public, try going out to a transgender support group. Most groups not only offer support, but also are awre of transgender nights out or can point you in the right dirrection - going on a night out with others of similar mind set can be a safe night out, fun and also a learning expierence.
There are transgender groups online, and they have support meetings in your area or near by. If he is seriously concidering living as a woman, then he needs to learn to look feminine. This will mean, shaving, makeup , how to dress as a woman and then learning how to walk and carry yourself as a woman.
If you speak to your doctor, they should take all gender issues seriously, and will refer you to speak to a specalist. If your thinking of taking hormones, i would recomend you do it through a doctor as self medicating( buying off the internet) is very dangerous. When your on prescribed hormones, you have regular blood tests to make sure your levels arnt too high.
Taking hormones carries not only risks which can be life threatening, but pernament ' side effects' some are desired- some not so. i.e breast developement, mood swings, shrinking of genitals, loss of ability to gain an errection( if doseage is high).
As for makeup and clothes, other tv's at the suport group may offer tips on that. But i would say my tips would be :
1. shave well, dont forget arms, pits and legs!
2. light makeup- yor trying to enhance not bury- unless you want the drage queen look - then slap it on!!.
3. dress appropiatly. Basically i would look for women of a similar age and use that as a starting opint of what i should be dressig like. But if your going for the drag queen or fancy dress- then that rule of thumb doesnt apply.
Can someone help me out need makeup tips and fashion advice for my male friend who is a crossdresser?
It is very helpful if he finds support groups in his area. Society in general is hostile to anyone who crosses gender lines, so it is really important to talk to others who are like-minded in a supportive environment. A support group can totally help him with the look and clothes and all.
That said, there are lots of resources online (like Yahoo groups).
I recommend dressing in private until he feels stronger in his presentation.
Tell him he should get some clothes to see if it's right for him, the best place for them is charity shops the clothes are cheep and most of the people there are understanding so if he came up with a good excuse they wouldn't ask many questions. he will also need to find out his dress size, http://stores.tgirlshomeshopping.com/Page.bok?template=size_guides thats a good website but i found out mine by trial and luck, I'm 16 (years old) and am dress size 10/12 (both are goods fits), shoe sizes are the same, tights are generally one size and will have to be bought for new from a place like Boots (if you live in the UK)
Hope this helps :D
it depends if he wants on if he wants to be a girly girl or not but usaly the same thing applies dress, panties,bra,tights you konow that sort of thing and dont overdo the makeup. be careful with eye shado it cam sometimes look bad
Just hide the masculinity and is he a crossdresser or a transsexual individual. If he wants to be a woman he can take hormones but they have to be prescriibed....
not too much of everything
chriss from holyoaks look at him xx
thankz he and I would like your responses.xCan someone help me out need makeup tips and fashion advice for my male friend who is a crossdresser?
well first of all he needs to decide if cross dressing is something he only wishes to do in private, or if he wants to go public. dont rush into anything- take your time and think about it. If he does want to go out in public, try going out to a transgender support group. Most groups not only offer support, but also are awre of transgender nights out or can point you in the right dirrection - going on a night out with others of similar mind set can be a safe night out, fun and also a learning expierence.
There are transgender groups online, and they have support meetings in your area or near by. If he is seriously concidering living as a woman, then he needs to learn to look feminine. This will mean, shaving, makeup , how to dress as a woman and then learning how to walk and carry yourself as a woman.
If you speak to your doctor, they should take all gender issues seriously, and will refer you to speak to a specalist. If your thinking of taking hormones, i would recomend you do it through a doctor as self medicating( buying off the internet) is very dangerous. When your on prescribed hormones, you have regular blood tests to make sure your levels arnt too high.
Taking hormones carries not only risks which can be life threatening, but pernament ' side effects' some are desired- some not so. i.e breast developement, mood swings, shrinking of genitals, loss of ability to gain an errection( if doseage is high).
As for makeup and clothes, other tv's at the suport group may offer tips on that. But i would say my tips would be :
1. shave well, dont forget arms, pits and legs!
2. light makeup- yor trying to enhance not bury- unless you want the drage queen look - then slap it on!!.
3. dress appropiatly. Basically i would look for women of a similar age and use that as a starting opint of what i should be dressig like. But if your going for the drag queen or fancy dress- then that rule of thumb doesnt apply.
Can someone help me out need makeup tips and fashion advice for my male friend who is a crossdresser?
It is very helpful if he finds support groups in his area. Society in general is hostile to anyone who crosses gender lines, so it is really important to talk to others who are like-minded in a supportive environment. A support group can totally help him with the look and clothes and all.
That said, there are lots of resources online (like Yahoo groups).
I recommend dressing in private until he feels stronger in his presentation.
Tell him he should get some clothes to see if it's right for him, the best place for them is charity shops the clothes are cheep and most of the people there are understanding so if he came up with a good excuse they wouldn't ask many questions. he will also need to find out his dress size, http://stores.tgirlshomeshopping.com/Page.bok?template=size_guides thats a good website but i found out mine by trial and luck, I'm 16 (years old) and am dress size 10/12 (both are goods fits), shoe sizes are the same, tights are generally one size and will have to be bought for new from a place like Boots (if you live in the UK)
Hope this helps :D
it depends if he wants on if he wants to be a girly girl or not but usaly the same thing applies dress, panties,bra,tights you konow that sort of thing and dont overdo the makeup. be careful with eye shado it cam sometimes look bad
Just hide the masculinity and is he a crossdresser or a transsexual individual. If he wants to be a woman he can take hormones but they have to be prescriibed....
not too much of everything
chriss from holyoaks look at him xx
Please help? Advice welcome?
I am a certified medical transcriptionist, but I haven't been able to find a job since I graduated in July. I've been to the hospital and filled out 3 applications and I've been to about 23 doctor's offices and no one has hired me yet. I can't even find a job as a receptionist or something in the meantime. Can someone please help me find one or tell me how to go about finding a job?Please help? Advice welcome?
First you should make sure that you have a professional resume,because believe it or not it really helps and references and any type of good experience whether it is volunteer or not helps. try to put your application in not only doctors and hospitals but if there are any local chiropracters you need to put your application in there to. Even thou most require you to fill out an application you should always attach a copy of your resume to, it sends a message to them that you are more interested and also they can see your organizational skills so make sure you do the resume yourself.Please help? Advice welcome?
phone all the employment agencies in your area and give them your c,v even if you can get temporary work it would be a start and it would get your foot in the door leading to a permanent positionwhiteheads
First you should make sure that you have a professional resume,because believe it or not it really helps and references and any type of good experience whether it is volunteer or not helps. try to put your application in not only doctors and hospitals but if there are any local chiropracters you need to put your application in there to. Even thou most require you to fill out an application you should always attach a copy of your resume to, it sends a message to them that you are more interested and also they can see your organizational skills so make sure you do the resume yourself.Please help? Advice welcome?
phone all the employment agencies in your area and give them your c,v even if you can get temporary work it would be a start and it would get your foot in the door leading to a permanent position
Pls help!! Advice greatly appreciated, thanks alot!?
I'm attending my Final Year, but everyday to me seems like Freshman Year b/c I'm not close to anyone, and everyone has their own cliques.
Everyday's a drag for me as I dont enjoy lessons in class as I only have one friend from another class (we only attend lectures tgt, but not tutorials, and not one of my upcoming modules which involve computer work in a com lab).
If I were an ordinary person I guess I'd still be able to survive on my own, b/c I'v done that before.
But I'm hearing-impaired and this causes me to miss out alot of things even if I listen carefully. I'v bought a high-definition recorder but it doesnt help b/c it picks out all surrounding sounds and it's out of Q to keep approaching all lecturers to get them to put the recorder in their breast pocket.. Hearing-impaired students are a stigma and a burden to society (I know, this is the feeling I get when I try to associate with the other students, and some lecturers)
School is getting me very depressed! Pls help me..Pls help!! Advice greatly appreciated, thanks alot!?
I don't know how much help this is, but try to focus on the fact that you are at university for yourself, and keep the goal of graduating foremost in your mind. I am so sorry to hear that you are feeling isolated and discouraged, it must be very hard to look forward to classes when you are not sure you will be communicating or socializing on the same level as everyone else.
However, you do have rights. There are headphone sets you can wear (the lecturer has a transmitter that they clip on). and it is absolutely ';in q'; to let the person know ahead of time that you will be needing some extra assistance in hearing the lecture. I think and hope that you will find that those around you are more than happy to help you in any way that they can. All you need to do is talk to administration and let them know you need a little extra help due to your impairment. There are protocols in place at most schools to help you through this.
Good luck, I hope that you are able to get the assistance you need and you have great final year. Also, have you looked into the possibilty of getting fitted for a hearing aid? Just wondering...Pls help!! Advice greatly appreciated, thanks alot!?
Please don't feel like this, because this is absolutely not true. You will get through your final year just fine. I knew a very nice girl and she was def and hearing impaired, but believe me, we managed to understand each other just fine and had good times. Just ignore those cliques, because they are not worth it. You can make friends somewhere else.
Have fun in your last year of school.
I seem to remember that at Purdue the adaptive student center would help hearing impaired students by either having a trained notetaker assist them or by having professors provide their notes to the student. I assume you are registered with whatever adaptive services office your school has, it may be a stigma that you're trying to shake and you have made it very far on what seems to be your own, but you might need a little help this time and they will do what they can within the limits of reasonable accommodation.
Well first of all you have more than one problem ( hearing impaired). Two feeling sorry for your self and As for acceptance in society that will come when you are over being insecure Take some classes in lip reading and don't let high school be your depression structure,it is only one step in the learning cycle. before you can get a decent job or position you will need either a Trade school or another school of higher learning.See what is available for those with your problems and go from there. Its a big world out there and if you really want to succeed send some time trying not crying
I have had a hearing problem and have found it to be a burden at times.
But what I have found is that allot of this only made me stronger!
You are what is important!!!You're life not others !!! Sure it is nice to have friends but it is not what makes you! Make and design you're surroundings about what you are and how you want to feel keep them close by fix up you're room and such (Affirmation's)and live life to its fullest everyday you only get one shot at this and finding things to be depressed about is easy, shine them on and get out there and explore you!
I bet you're a very interesting person with allot of talent yet to be discovered! The world is you're apple take a bite and don't stop until you have finished! A life without risk is a life wasted!
Don't let what others are doing get in you're way at all,they wont make you happy YOU MAKE YOU HAPPY it doesn't work unless you understand that you have to like you first and don't look at what society has to tell you about yourself its bullshit GOD DONT MAKE NO JUNK!!! Hear what I'm saying! ;)
I can understand why you feel left out, and why you feel that you are a burden...but you're not. You have a harder time with hearing things than others do, but you should not feel bad about this - you should be commended for holding your own and keeping up with an additional challenge in your way. So, first and foremost, congratulations for having the fortitude to stick with it!
It may help to ask one of the counselors at your school what can be done to help you with this situation. Many teachers have an issue with lectures being recorded (some idiots edited some tapes, causing legal trouble a few years ago), but since it is to help you with an impairment, I'm sure that most would be happy to help you.
Your education should not have limits just because your hearing does.
I have a friend who is completely deaf, and he is one of the most brilliant and wonderful minds to have ever graced my life. I met him in a ASL course - I have always loved the language, and if I ever have children, will raise them speaking both English (my native tongue) and ASL - as he was helping the instructor...he told us (mostly in sign, though we needed help understanding through the instructor) about how badly he used to feel about himself in public, especially in school where people can be so cruel just to make themselves feel better. He realized, though, that everyone has gifts AND disadvantages in this world, and that even though he could not hear, he could still make a difference.
Perhaps you should go in on your own time and talk to your professors. If they aren't too happy with the concept of being recorded, ask them if there is another way that they can help you get the information that you need.
Above everything, though, remeber that you are NOT a burden to this world, and that you have just as much to offer as anyone else, if not more.
I wish you the best - good luck!
bring it up to someone influential and who could make a difference. try sitting up farther and catching up w/ the lecturer after hes done to get some focal points that u may have missed. explain ur problem and im sure they'd be happy to help. good luck!!
is it possible to get a radio microphone for professors to clip on and have it recorded somewhere for you (a lap top or tape recorder). That may make life a bit easier.
It may also be a bonus for classmates to catch up with you to go over their lecture notes with your recordings.
Good luck. If you can do that, you could be well sought after.
maybe u can ask a professional about the benefits of reading lips or learning sign language and having the school place somebody in your class that knows sign language...you are not alone or maybe u can do a search on hearing impaired forums and meet friends like that ...there are mean people out there but there are more friendly people in this world.
your almost done.. just keep going and things should look up! try joining a club or get involved in school activites.. become apart of your school to fit in more
Get religious. My college days were made worthwhile because of the friends I met through my church. www.lds.org. Even met my wife.
Everyday's a drag for me as I dont enjoy lessons in class as I only have one friend from another class (we only attend lectures tgt, but not tutorials, and not one of my upcoming modules which involve computer work in a com lab).
If I were an ordinary person I guess I'd still be able to survive on my own, b/c I'v done that before.
But I'm hearing-impaired and this causes me to miss out alot of things even if I listen carefully. I'v bought a high-definition recorder but it doesnt help b/c it picks out all surrounding sounds and it's out of Q to keep approaching all lecturers to get them to put the recorder in their breast pocket.. Hearing-impaired students are a stigma and a burden to society (I know, this is the feeling I get when I try to associate with the other students, and some lecturers)
School is getting me very depressed! Pls help me..Pls help!! Advice greatly appreciated, thanks alot!?
I don't know how much help this is, but try to focus on the fact that you are at university for yourself, and keep the goal of graduating foremost in your mind. I am so sorry to hear that you are feeling isolated and discouraged, it must be very hard to look forward to classes when you are not sure you will be communicating or socializing on the same level as everyone else.
However, you do have rights. There are headphone sets you can wear (the lecturer has a transmitter that they clip on). and it is absolutely ';in q'; to let the person know ahead of time that you will be needing some extra assistance in hearing the lecture. I think and hope that you will find that those around you are more than happy to help you in any way that they can. All you need to do is talk to administration and let them know you need a little extra help due to your impairment. There are protocols in place at most schools to help you through this.
Good luck, I hope that you are able to get the assistance you need and you have great final year. Also, have you looked into the possibilty of getting fitted for a hearing aid? Just wondering...Pls help!! Advice greatly appreciated, thanks alot!?
Please don't feel like this, because this is absolutely not true. You will get through your final year just fine. I knew a very nice girl and she was def and hearing impaired, but believe me, we managed to understand each other just fine and had good times. Just ignore those cliques, because they are not worth it. You can make friends somewhere else.
Have fun in your last year of school.
I seem to remember that at Purdue the adaptive student center would help hearing impaired students by either having a trained notetaker assist them or by having professors provide their notes to the student. I assume you are registered with whatever adaptive services office your school has, it may be a stigma that you're trying to shake and you have made it very far on what seems to be your own, but you might need a little help this time and they will do what they can within the limits of reasonable accommodation.
Well first of all you have more than one problem ( hearing impaired). Two feeling sorry for your self and As for acceptance in society that will come when you are over being insecure Take some classes in lip reading and don't let high school be your depression structure,it is only one step in the learning cycle. before you can get a decent job or position you will need either a Trade school or another school of higher learning.See what is available for those with your problems and go from there. Its a big world out there and if you really want to succeed send some time trying not crying
I have had a hearing problem and have found it to be a burden at times.
But what I have found is that allot of this only made me stronger!
You are what is important!!!You're life not others !!! Sure it is nice to have friends but it is not what makes you! Make and design you're surroundings about what you are and how you want to feel keep them close by fix up you're room and such (Affirmation's)and live life to its fullest everyday you only get one shot at this and finding things to be depressed about is easy, shine them on and get out there and explore you!
I bet you're a very interesting person with allot of talent yet to be discovered! The world is you're apple take a bite and don't stop until you have finished! A life without risk is a life wasted!
Don't let what others are doing get in you're way at all,they wont make you happy YOU MAKE YOU HAPPY it doesn't work unless you understand that you have to like you first and don't look at what society has to tell you about yourself its bullshit GOD DONT MAKE NO JUNK!!! Hear what I'm saying! ;)
I can understand why you feel left out, and why you feel that you are a burden...but you're not. You have a harder time with hearing things than others do, but you should not feel bad about this - you should be commended for holding your own and keeping up with an additional challenge in your way. So, first and foremost, congratulations for having the fortitude to stick with it!
It may help to ask one of the counselors at your school what can be done to help you with this situation. Many teachers have an issue with lectures being recorded (some idiots edited some tapes, causing legal trouble a few years ago), but since it is to help you with an impairment, I'm sure that most would be happy to help you.
Your education should not have limits just because your hearing does.
I have a friend who is completely deaf, and he is one of the most brilliant and wonderful minds to have ever graced my life. I met him in a ASL course - I have always loved the language, and if I ever have children, will raise them speaking both English (my native tongue) and ASL - as he was helping the instructor...he told us (mostly in sign, though we needed help understanding through the instructor) about how badly he used to feel about himself in public, especially in school where people can be so cruel just to make themselves feel better. He realized, though, that everyone has gifts AND disadvantages in this world, and that even though he could not hear, he could still make a difference.
Perhaps you should go in on your own time and talk to your professors. If they aren't too happy with the concept of being recorded, ask them if there is another way that they can help you get the information that you need.
Above everything, though, remeber that you are NOT a burden to this world, and that you have just as much to offer as anyone else, if not more.
I wish you the best - good luck!
bring it up to someone influential and who could make a difference. try sitting up farther and catching up w/ the lecturer after hes done to get some focal points that u may have missed. explain ur problem and im sure they'd be happy to help. good luck!!
is it possible to get a radio microphone for professors to clip on and have it recorded somewhere for you (a lap top or tape recorder). That may make life a bit easier.
It may also be a bonus for classmates to catch up with you to go over their lecture notes with your recordings.
Good luck. If you can do that, you could be well sought after.
maybe u can ask a professional about the benefits of reading lips or learning sign language and having the school place somebody in your class that knows sign language...you are not alone or maybe u can do a search on hearing impaired forums and meet friends like that ...there are mean people out there but there are more friendly people in this world.
your almost done.. just keep going and things should look up! try joining a club or get involved in school activites.. become apart of your school to fit in more
Get religious. My college days were made worthwhile because of the friends I met through my church. www.lds.org. Even met my wife.
I'm 15 years old at 5,7 ft (170)cm tall with 70 kg weight (151)pounds is there any advice to help me be taller
i practice kickboxing and i eat fineI'm 15 years old at 5,7 ft (170)cm tall with 70 kg weight (151)pounds is there any advice to help me be taller
My dad was 5'9'; my mom was 5'3'; I am 6'3';..... you will be as tall as your DNA intends. You can't eat yourself tall, you can't exercise yourself tall, and you can't wish yourself tall, all you can do is love yourself as you are. I was still growing by the way until I was in my middle 20's (usually you are done in your late teens). What size shoe you wear can sometimes be a predictor of height. I wear a 14 (feet also grew into my early 30's). You sound like you are well proportioned, thats a big plus!!I'm 15 years old at 5,7 ft (170)cm tall with 70 kg weight (151)pounds is there any advice to help me be taller
you can make yourself look taller, but cant actually change your height
you cant be taller...youll grow, after all youre only 15 and most males grow in their late(r) teens...however, just keep up what youre doing and youll stay a healthy weight for your height!
To be taller?
For starters, Always practice good posture, it really helps.
And second, if you're a 15 year old male, you still may grow. (Some males don't get another growth spurt until they're 20 or 21).
My dad was 5'9'; my mom was 5'3'; I am 6'3';..... you will be as tall as your DNA intends. You can't eat yourself tall, you can't exercise yourself tall, and you can't wish yourself tall, all you can do is love yourself as you are. I was still growing by the way until I was in my middle 20's (usually you are done in your late teens). What size shoe you wear can sometimes be a predictor of height. I wear a 14 (feet also grew into my early 30's). You sound like you are well proportioned, thats a big plus!!I'm 15 years old at 5,7 ft (170)cm tall with 70 kg weight (151)pounds is there any advice to help me be taller
you can make yourself look taller, but cant actually change your height
you cant be taller...youll grow, after all youre only 15 and most males grow in their late(r) teens...however, just keep up what youre doing and youll stay a healthy weight for your height!
To be taller?
For starters, Always practice good posture, it really helps.
And second, if you're a 15 year old male, you still may grow. (Some males don't get another growth spurt until they're 20 or 21).
Help I am a college student and I need advice?
I just found out that I don't have enough financial aid to go back to school. I live in a small town and there are no colleges here. Some colleges have started and others will nexgt week. What should I do should I just go to a tech school or should I wait and see what will happen next semester with financial aidHelp I am a college student and I need advice?
Can you go to school and work? I know it is tough.. but I did it, and so are a lot of other people. You may need to go to school part time, until you can get more money for school.
Try to find an assistantship or a professor that needs help with some of their research. They may be able to pay for some of your schooling with a felowship or assistantship or something (even as an undergrad). Scholarships, grants.. I am sure you have looked into those.
Some schools have a tutoring program where you are given an assistantship to help tutor athletes or other students. I know a few people that have done this.
It is hard, but try all of your options and don't give up!!Help I am a college student and I need advice?
happened to me and i had to drop out. hope you fare better. try the financial aid first.
Can you work for a year and then try again?
What do you mean by ';don't have enough financial aid?'; Do you mean grants and scholarships, or just subsidized loans? Consider a loan if you really want it. Most tech school credits don't transfer, and a lot of credits at community colleges don't transfer. You need to be very careful on the classes you take at a community college. Go talk to the financial aid office and they can give you a better idea of what to do.
well the same thing happened to me (long story though). I had to resort to taking out a loan. I also know that others have just worked for a semester or two to save up some money, applied for financial aid again, and just went back after that. Is that an option for you?
Get a student loan, apply for financial aid, check to see if you qualify for veterens benefits. (If you dad was a vet, you might get some dough) Some colleges even offer short term cash loans.
I think there are lots of options worth looking into:
If you are just a few thousand short, see about getting an on campus job to pay it down.
Does this include student loans?
Is there relative near by that you can live with to avoid room %26amp; board.
Is a community college an option to complete some general requirements.
Take a semester to work, and build up some money.
Good Luck!
EVER HEARD OF A WORK STUDY PROGRAM, THEY WILL PAY FOR YOUR TUITION AND BOOKS IF YOU WORK FOR THEM!
Can you go to school and work? I know it is tough.. but I did it, and so are a lot of other people. You may need to go to school part time, until you can get more money for school.
Try to find an assistantship or a professor that needs help with some of their research. They may be able to pay for some of your schooling with a felowship or assistantship or something (even as an undergrad). Scholarships, grants.. I am sure you have looked into those.
Some schools have a tutoring program where you are given an assistantship to help tutor athletes or other students. I know a few people that have done this.
It is hard, but try all of your options and don't give up!!Help I am a college student and I need advice?
happened to me and i had to drop out. hope you fare better. try the financial aid first.
Can you work for a year and then try again?
What do you mean by ';don't have enough financial aid?'; Do you mean grants and scholarships, or just subsidized loans? Consider a loan if you really want it. Most tech school credits don't transfer, and a lot of credits at community colleges don't transfer. You need to be very careful on the classes you take at a community college. Go talk to the financial aid office and they can give you a better idea of what to do.
well the same thing happened to me (long story though). I had to resort to taking out a loan. I also know that others have just worked for a semester or two to save up some money, applied for financial aid again, and just went back after that. Is that an option for you?
Get a student loan, apply for financial aid, check to see if you qualify for veterens benefits. (If you dad was a vet, you might get some dough) Some colleges even offer short term cash loans.
I think there are lots of options worth looking into:
If you are just a few thousand short, see about getting an on campus job to pay it down.
Does this include student loans?
Is there relative near by that you can live with to avoid room %26amp; board.
Is a community college an option to complete some general requirements.
Take a semester to work, and build up some money.
Good Luck!
EVER HEARD OF A WORK STUDY PROGRAM, THEY WILL PAY FOR YOUR TUITION AND BOOKS IF YOU WORK FOR THEM!
I have a fear of driving? Any help or advice?
i know it sounds crazy but i have the fear of driving? and whats more crazy is that i got my license... yea dont tell me how or what!!! i mean i can drive but im just scared too... and i need some help or advice ok... thanks!!!I have a fear of driving? Any help or advice?
just like me..
for the first time i felt bad
some thing is wrong, OMG ... etc
but after the second time i felt totally better
u just need time as u know u have to be courageI have a fear of driving? Any help or advice?
put on some music, look out the just dont think about it. it come natural if you dont think about it. maybe you could drive to and from school w/ a friend that way you have someone to talk to and take your mind off of things. Hope i helped!!!!
I used to be that way myself. I used to think that I would reck before I am about to drive. You will warm up to it.
Try to avoid major traffic congestion for awhile. Until you get comfortable driving on the open road, you won't be comfortable in a heavy traffic environment. Take reasonable steps toward becoming at ease with the vehicle and you will do fine. I think that everyone should be a little scared of driving, because all too often people become lax and careless when piloting 2 ton missiles.
Don麓t get involved with the scary environment of rush hour traffic or night time driving and you will be fine.
just like me..
for the first time i felt bad
some thing is wrong, OMG ... etc
but after the second time i felt totally better
u just need time as u know u have to be courageI have a fear of driving? Any help or advice?
put on some music, look out the just dont think about it. it come natural if you dont think about it. maybe you could drive to and from school w/ a friend that way you have someone to talk to and take your mind off of things. Hope i helped!!!!
I used to be that way myself. I used to think that I would reck before I am about to drive. You will warm up to it.
Try to avoid major traffic congestion for awhile. Until you get comfortable driving on the open road, you won't be comfortable in a heavy traffic environment. Take reasonable steps toward becoming at ease with the vehicle and you will do fine. I think that everyone should be a little scared of driving, because all too often people become lax and careless when piloting 2 ton missiles.
Don麓t get involved with the scary environment of rush hour traffic or night time driving and you will be fine.
What do I do?, help please - I could do with some advice?
I lost somebody really close to me earlier this year and am still greiving for the loss. I have anaylised my life following this and have found that my home life is hell. My long term partner does not really speak to me, we have no social life or any other life together and I feel that we are just with each other for the sake of being with each other. I have children who get on with him and dont want them to be affected by my unhappeness. He does not realise how unhappy I am or does not really seem bothered. How can I change my situation,. To say the spark has gone really is an understatement. I also dont have any many friends so I do really feel alone. Life is too short but would I be better putting up with it or making the break.What do I do?, help please - I could do with some advice?
don't put up with it,if you aren't happy then leave him;as you said life is too short!What do I do?, help please - I could do with some advice?
Thank you alll for your opinions. I have taken them to heart. I am going to see the doctor and see what he suggests. Then I will speak with my partner and tell him how I am feeling and see what happens.
Thanks again. You have all helped. x
well my friend has been in the same situation. and he recons that itrs not the relationship its the loss your feeling it makes you feel like no one understands you. greaf can be a very personal thing and you may feel like your the only one that feels the way you do. his partner was with him all the way trew the sudden death of his mother. but he noticed he couldnt talk to her after because the felt he was on his own. and im guessing you feel the same way. but just remember your not ok. if he means anything to you he will listen to your problem and try his dam hardest to put things right. if not then you need to put him straight and dont let it fester because thats the end of your relationship ...plus your social life will suffer and maybe yo9u need to take control of it by organising a night out and trying to sort things out by havin a laugh together like when you started seeing each other. well i hope this helps.
He sounds like an @ss, you are wasting your precious time with him...move on babe.
take the bull by the horns. sit your partner down and tell him what you feel.see what he as to say.about the situation.you still might be grieving and your world is upside down at the present.and your in a depress state of mind.
It's time you accepted the loss of the loved one, you have so much to live for but your grief is giving you a very grim perspective.
Get a holiday, it doesn't have to be expensive, if blackpool is all you can afford, so be it.
Stay away for two or three weeks if you can then when you come back you can renew your relationships, or not, its up to you.
First sorry for your loss. This life can be hell sometimes, but tomorrow comes. The best choice you can make is one of consideration and love. Talk to your partner and let him know your feelings, if he loves you you will see a change you need or an understanding it's time. Always try to show in the end as you did in the start, that your intentions are and always were of sincerity.
Honesty cannot be beaten in any circumstance.
hi sorry for your loss , when you loose somebody close in our lives its natural to have a good look at out own lives , you are obvoiusly not happy with your partner sweetie , you are existing at the moment not living , you need to find the courage somehow to leave this guy and start thinking about your own life and what you really want , your children will be fine they will find it hard at first but when they see how happy and more confident their mum has become they will be too, be strong follow your instincts what to do , you will make new friends so dont feel alone , good luck and if you need a friend to chat to feel free to email me , good luck x
Perhaps if you found a hobby, joined a group or something it would help your relationship. If you (or both of you) have very few interests outside of the home then what is there to talk about? Making some new friends and meeting new people will also help with building your confidence and maybe this would be a factor in your decision about whether to stay or not. I know when you're unhappy its the easiest thing in the world to just shut off from everyone and everything but sometimes its nice just to have another perspective about things - like asking on here!
Failing that, you'd have some new friends to go to the pub with and drown your sorrows! Its always worked for me.....!
Talk to him .
Hi.
It can take a great deal of time to 'get over' losing someone. In fact, I don't believe we ever 'get over' it, we just learn to move on with our lives whilst still experiencing the loss. - We sort of assimilate it. But this feeling of loss and grief can affect the way you react to other people. - It can cause depression. I think the first thing you need to do is to ask your children and your partner how they think you are reacting and see what they say. - Invariably someone suffering a depressive state, is the last person who becomes aware of it. - It sounds as though you are just beginning to be aware and to want to change things, which is a positive sign; - but I think you may be transferring the responsibility for the way you feel onto your partner.
So the first thibg to do is to talk to your doctor, - telll him/her how you are feeling and let them decide whether you need some temporary assistance.
Secondly, talk to your partner. Be open and honest and ask him how he feels. He may be having problems too and a lack of communication could be compounding both your situations. Prepare him for what you want to say and ask him to be considered and gentle in his responses.
I think you will find you are suffering from mild depression. I bet you feel worse in the morning and improve slightly as the day goes on?
Think about what I have said, and good luck!
B
Its really difficult when you lose someone that is special to you. You are surround by many mixed emotions, anger, heartache,grievence and resentment. Death does not give you time to prepare yourself, it just bombards you with all this mixed emotions. It awful, I know the feeling...but on earth we are all not meant to stay forever! We all have to leave sometime sooner or later. Accepting ones death is a duanting task, but you have to come to terms with it and know that he/she is in a much better place in the arms of God! I think your partner should try and understand that this isnt a walk in the park for you and should show some moral support, if he aint gona do it...then the question you should ask yourself ';does he really love you';.....and if he aint supporting you in the time you need him the most then sweetheart I think that answers your question!!!
don't put up with it,if you aren't happy then leave him;as you said life is too short!What do I do?, help please - I could do with some advice?
Thank you alll for your opinions. I have taken them to heart. I am going to see the doctor and see what he suggests. Then I will speak with my partner and tell him how I am feeling and see what happens.
Thanks again. You have all helped. x
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well my friend has been in the same situation. and he recons that itrs not the relationship its the loss your feeling it makes you feel like no one understands you. greaf can be a very personal thing and you may feel like your the only one that feels the way you do. his partner was with him all the way trew the sudden death of his mother. but he noticed he couldnt talk to her after because the felt he was on his own. and im guessing you feel the same way. but just remember your not ok. if he means anything to you he will listen to your problem and try his dam hardest to put things right. if not then you need to put him straight and dont let it fester because thats the end of your relationship ...plus your social life will suffer and maybe yo9u need to take control of it by organising a night out and trying to sort things out by havin a laugh together like when you started seeing each other. well i hope this helps.
He sounds like an @ss, you are wasting your precious time with him...move on babe.
take the bull by the horns. sit your partner down and tell him what you feel.see what he as to say.about the situation.you still might be grieving and your world is upside down at the present.and your in a depress state of mind.
It's time you accepted the loss of the loved one, you have so much to live for but your grief is giving you a very grim perspective.
Get a holiday, it doesn't have to be expensive, if blackpool is all you can afford, so be it.
Stay away for two or three weeks if you can then when you come back you can renew your relationships, or not, its up to you.
First sorry for your loss. This life can be hell sometimes, but tomorrow comes. The best choice you can make is one of consideration and love. Talk to your partner and let him know your feelings, if he loves you you will see a change you need or an understanding it's time. Always try to show in the end as you did in the start, that your intentions are and always were of sincerity.
Honesty cannot be beaten in any circumstance.
hi sorry for your loss , when you loose somebody close in our lives its natural to have a good look at out own lives , you are obvoiusly not happy with your partner sweetie , you are existing at the moment not living , you need to find the courage somehow to leave this guy and start thinking about your own life and what you really want , your children will be fine they will find it hard at first but when they see how happy and more confident their mum has become they will be too, be strong follow your instincts what to do , you will make new friends so dont feel alone , good luck and if you need a friend to chat to feel free to email me , good luck x
Perhaps if you found a hobby, joined a group or something it would help your relationship. If you (or both of you) have very few interests outside of the home then what is there to talk about? Making some new friends and meeting new people will also help with building your confidence and maybe this would be a factor in your decision about whether to stay or not. I know when you're unhappy its the easiest thing in the world to just shut off from everyone and everything but sometimes its nice just to have another perspective about things - like asking on here!
Failing that, you'd have some new friends to go to the pub with and drown your sorrows! Its always worked for me.....!
Talk to him .
Hi.
It can take a great deal of time to 'get over' losing someone. In fact, I don't believe we ever 'get over' it, we just learn to move on with our lives whilst still experiencing the loss. - We sort of assimilate it. But this feeling of loss and grief can affect the way you react to other people. - It can cause depression. I think the first thing you need to do is to ask your children and your partner how they think you are reacting and see what they say. - Invariably someone suffering a depressive state, is the last person who becomes aware of it. - It sounds as though you are just beginning to be aware and to want to change things, which is a positive sign; - but I think you may be transferring the responsibility for the way you feel onto your partner.
So the first thibg to do is to talk to your doctor, - telll him/her how you are feeling and let them decide whether you need some temporary assistance.
Secondly, talk to your partner. Be open and honest and ask him how he feels. He may be having problems too and a lack of communication could be compounding both your situations. Prepare him for what you want to say and ask him to be considered and gentle in his responses.
I think you will find you are suffering from mild depression. I bet you feel worse in the morning and improve slightly as the day goes on?
Think about what I have said, and good luck!
B
Its really difficult when you lose someone that is special to you. You are surround by many mixed emotions, anger, heartache,grievence and resentment. Death does not give you time to prepare yourself, it just bombards you with all this mixed emotions. It awful, I know the feeling...but on earth we are all not meant to stay forever! We all have to leave sometime sooner or later. Accepting ones death is a duanting task, but you have to come to terms with it and know that he/she is in a much better place in the arms of God! I think your partner should try and understand that this isnt a walk in the park for you and should show some moral support, if he aint gona do it...then the question you should ask yourself ';does he really love you';.....and if he aint supporting you in the time you need him the most then sweetheart I think that answers your question!!!
Dropped Laptop: My laptop fell while on and now it gives a ';disk read error';. Any help or advice?
If your laptop does not have drive protection, it may damaged the hard drive head, if the hard drive is damaged, you must have it replaced. Or maybe cables were disconnectedDropped Laptop: My laptop fell while on and now it gives a ';disk read error';. Any help or advice?
You will probably have to replace your hard drive. You might try running chkdsk /r from the recovery console first. You hard drive might be able to fix the bad blocks. To get to the recovery console, you will have to boot to your Windows XP disk. Push ';r'; for recovery console. When you are at the command prompt, type chkdsk /r. This process can take a long time.Dropped Laptop: My laptop fell while on and now it gives a ';disk read error';. Any help or advice?
I think the hard drive got disconnected.whiteheads
You will probably have to replace your hard drive. You might try running chkdsk /r from the recovery console first. You hard drive might be able to fix the bad blocks. To get to the recovery console, you will have to boot to your Windows XP disk. Push ';r'; for recovery console. When you are at the command prompt, type chkdsk /r. This process can take a long time.Dropped Laptop: My laptop fell while on and now it gives a ';disk read error';. Any help or advice?
I think the hard drive got disconnected.
Need help, please read, advice/help needed?
hi everyone.
i'm pretty new on here, but i have a question.
well, i was sexually abused by my grandad when i was 16. it started when i went on holiday with my grandparents, and we all got drunk one night, and i sat on the balcony with my grandad when we arrived back in our room. my grandma went off to make us something to eat, and i was sat next to him, and he began by just holding my hand on my knee, but then he pulled his hand away and began rubbing my crotch, then asking me if i was 'going to sleep yet' (i assume now that he mean was i having an orgasm - obviously NOT!) i just said yes and froze to the spot. i didn't know what to do. he then asked me to unzip my pants, but i said no, and he kept saying please, but i kept saying no, so he just rubbed my crotch again. then i said i was going to see how my gran was getting on in the kitchen area.
i was 16, so it's not as though i was a kid and that i didn't know or understand, like if i was a young child, so i should have known to push his hand away, stand up and scream for everyone to hear to know what he had just done.
since we had got back, it stopped until a few years later when me and my mum went to my grandparents house and they were getting drunk, and as we were saying goodbye, my grandad stroked my back and tried to touch my bottom. i pulled away and moved to the other side of the room.
i am now 24 and happily married, but i still think about it and my husband wants me to see a psychiatrist so i can talk to someone about it, as he can't help me, he just wants to kill him! i get upset whenever i've had a drink.
i haven't said anything to the family as i didn't want to hurt them, and there is no evidence of anything so no one would believe me and the police wouldn't do anything neither because of this, i'm sure.
has anyone been in this situation, and how do i go about seeing a psychiatrist/councellor?
thanks, sorry for the long read, but i need help.Need help, please read, advice/help needed?
Sorry to hear what has happened and it doesn't matter that you where 16,he abused you.
You NEED to tell people to stop this happening to others and STOP the viscous circle that abusers cause. It is not a taboo subject anymore and you have NOTHING to be ashamed of.
To get help you need to see your doctor who will put you in touch with a councillor.
Best of luck.Need help, please read, advice/help needed?
I think you should also talk to your parents. There is no question of hurting feeling. Think about the your feeling, how they have been hurt. In these types of situations, parents turns to be for beyond the doctors.
http://mindfulnessmantra.blogspot.com
You are very lucky skipping the abuse.
Abuse is a mental defect.He must be shown to psychiatrist/councellor at that time.
Make urself busy.Forget the past.Don't try to see the past.
Do exercise,do some job.
Don't be depressed.You are very healthy.
Meditate.
i dont care if he's your grandfather or not, he took advantage of you, report him to the authorities, and do it soon. if your family dont stand by you, then their not REALLY family are they.
I am so sorry. I am now 65, but my grandfather did a similar thing to me when I was about 13. I have never told anyone about it - except you now. I think about it now and then, but my grandfather is long passed away, and there is no point in causing trouble. I often wonder if he did a similar thing to his other granddaughters - one of them my own baby sister, but have never had the courage to ask them. We are all grown up now and happily married.
My niece had similar problems with her grandfather (no relation to me) and eventually told someone. It turned out he had abused a number of his granddaughters and their friends, and was eventually taken to court and placed in a special mental hospital for life.
There is nothing you can do about your own past, but if there are other children he has access to, do you think you should do something to protect them?
If you really feel you need to see a psychiatrist you will need to go through your GP.
Sexual abuse is rampant. yes, I think you should see a therapist. Is your grandfather still alive? THere is no reason why anyone would not believe you. You can get a referral for a therapist from a hospital or perhaps someone you know. I also suggest you call a rape crisis center; they can help, also.
THe pain won't go away until you begtin to process it. I was also molested as a child.
I believe in ';restorative Justice';--this is what you did. This is how it made me feel. It doesn't matter what the criminal thinks or says; only how YOU feel. You were violated. You CAN take your power back. You could write your grandfather a letter, or confront him in person (with an advocate/therapist), so you could feel safe.
I believe that for victims to remain silent, is just re-victimizing yourself. Unfortunately being molested as a child is so common; just horrific.
I am the moderator of an abused survivors group. If you would like to contact me: wacalice@aol.com
Hugs, Alice
You sound like you are blaming yourself for this. You were young and obviously shocked by this and would guess be worried by the repercussions of outing your grandad.
You definitely need to see a psychiatrist. Go to your doctor and get put in contact with someone.
It is a difficult one for you but what if he does it to someone else? At the end of the day you need to weigh up what this will mean if you do go to the police. Ask yourself the question though 'Should he be allowed to get away with making you feel like this?' I think not.
Good luck.
i'm pretty new on here, but i have a question.
well, i was sexually abused by my grandad when i was 16. it started when i went on holiday with my grandparents, and we all got drunk one night, and i sat on the balcony with my grandad when we arrived back in our room. my grandma went off to make us something to eat, and i was sat next to him, and he began by just holding my hand on my knee, but then he pulled his hand away and began rubbing my crotch, then asking me if i was 'going to sleep yet' (i assume now that he mean was i having an orgasm - obviously NOT!) i just said yes and froze to the spot. i didn't know what to do. he then asked me to unzip my pants, but i said no, and he kept saying please, but i kept saying no, so he just rubbed my crotch again. then i said i was going to see how my gran was getting on in the kitchen area.
i was 16, so it's not as though i was a kid and that i didn't know or understand, like if i was a young child, so i should have known to push his hand away, stand up and scream for everyone to hear to know what he had just done.
since we had got back, it stopped until a few years later when me and my mum went to my grandparents house and they were getting drunk, and as we were saying goodbye, my grandad stroked my back and tried to touch my bottom. i pulled away and moved to the other side of the room.
i am now 24 and happily married, but i still think about it and my husband wants me to see a psychiatrist so i can talk to someone about it, as he can't help me, he just wants to kill him! i get upset whenever i've had a drink.
i haven't said anything to the family as i didn't want to hurt them, and there is no evidence of anything so no one would believe me and the police wouldn't do anything neither because of this, i'm sure.
has anyone been in this situation, and how do i go about seeing a psychiatrist/councellor?
thanks, sorry for the long read, but i need help.Need help, please read, advice/help needed?
Sorry to hear what has happened and it doesn't matter that you where 16,he abused you.
You NEED to tell people to stop this happening to others and STOP the viscous circle that abusers cause. It is not a taboo subject anymore and you have NOTHING to be ashamed of.
To get help you need to see your doctor who will put you in touch with a councillor.
Best of luck.Need help, please read, advice/help needed?
I think you should also talk to your parents. There is no question of hurting feeling. Think about the your feeling, how they have been hurt. In these types of situations, parents turns to be for beyond the doctors.
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You are very lucky skipping the abuse.
Abuse is a mental defect.He must be shown to psychiatrist/councellor at that time.
Make urself busy.Forget the past.Don't try to see the past.
Do exercise,do some job.
Don't be depressed.You are very healthy.
Meditate.
i dont care if he's your grandfather or not, he took advantage of you, report him to the authorities, and do it soon. if your family dont stand by you, then their not REALLY family are they.
I am so sorry. I am now 65, but my grandfather did a similar thing to me when I was about 13. I have never told anyone about it - except you now. I think about it now and then, but my grandfather is long passed away, and there is no point in causing trouble. I often wonder if he did a similar thing to his other granddaughters - one of them my own baby sister, but have never had the courage to ask them. We are all grown up now and happily married.
My niece had similar problems with her grandfather (no relation to me) and eventually told someone. It turned out he had abused a number of his granddaughters and their friends, and was eventually taken to court and placed in a special mental hospital for life.
There is nothing you can do about your own past, but if there are other children he has access to, do you think you should do something to protect them?
If you really feel you need to see a psychiatrist you will need to go through your GP.
Sexual abuse is rampant. yes, I think you should see a therapist. Is your grandfather still alive? THere is no reason why anyone would not believe you. You can get a referral for a therapist from a hospital or perhaps someone you know. I also suggest you call a rape crisis center; they can help, also.
THe pain won't go away until you begtin to process it. I was also molested as a child.
I believe in ';restorative Justice';--this is what you did. This is how it made me feel. It doesn't matter what the criminal thinks or says; only how YOU feel. You were violated. You CAN take your power back. You could write your grandfather a letter, or confront him in person (with an advocate/therapist), so you could feel safe.
I believe that for victims to remain silent, is just re-victimizing yourself. Unfortunately being molested as a child is so common; just horrific.
I am the moderator of an abused survivors group. If you would like to contact me: wacalice@aol.com
Hugs, Alice
You sound like you are blaming yourself for this. You were young and obviously shocked by this and would guess be worried by the repercussions of outing your grandad.
You definitely need to see a psychiatrist. Go to your doctor and get put in contact with someone.
It is a difficult one for you but what if he does it to someone else? At the end of the day you need to weigh up what this will mean if you do go to the police. Ask yourself the question though 'Should he be allowed to get away with making you feel like this?' I think not.
Good luck.
Advice... Help.. Anything.. Please?
I'm so tired. I have a 4 1/2 month old and a 4 year old. My eldest has always been a bad sleeper and had just got on track sleeping on his own all night when I was pregnant but now the baby disturbs him and he ends up in bed with me and last night woke about 10 times crying.
My baby used to sleep from 7pm til 4am have a feed and sleep til 7am. She had a growth spurt 4 weeks ago and since then wakes twice for a feed( and several times more) Last night went like this:
7pm feed
7.30pm sleep
10pm awake but re-settled by herself
11pm awake searching for a feed. Fed her
12.45am awake would not re-settle even with my help
1.45am asleep
2.00am awake again for feed
2.20am back in cot would not re-settle not even when I rocked her
3am in bed with me went back to sleep
5.30am - 6.30am kept waking up and I kept patting her back to sleep.
Like I said on top of that my son woke like 10 times. I'm so tired I feel like I'm going to burst into tears. It's wearing me down. I don't think I can take much more of this.
My husband can't help much during the night as he has to get up for work at 4.45am.
Please help. Any help.Advice... Help.. Anything.. Please?
our little ones were like this,we put them on solids early,as they were always hungry,uset step up formula,and used lavender bubble bath and scent for there pillows(calming).
with your 4 yr old,pasta for tea is good,as its a complex carbohydrate,and takes time to break down,so makes you sleepy,try the lavender with him aswel,and be afectionate,so that he goes to sleep happy,less likely hel wake up then.
i know what you mean about no sleep though!
chin up,it does get betterAdvice... Help.. Anything.. Please?
I don't know why anyone has given aeden b thumbs down it sounds a good answer to me. All i will say is routine routine routine...it worked for mine xx
good luck hun
My husband also had to get up super early for work and couldnt help much. But he does come home! And you can take a NAP! It's not much, but it's something. Hand him the baby and go to sleep! Sounds like big brother is having a little trouble adjusting to baby as well. I know that it's hard, especially when you are pooped, but try not to let him come into bed with you. That will be a big battle you'll end up fighting in a few months. Do the kids share a room? If so, try to separate them. If not, talk to the oldest before bed. Explain to him you know how annoying it can be when the baby wakes everyone in the house up. And how hard it is to go back to sleep. But, he has to stay in his big boy bed. Tell him that if he has trouble going back to sleep you'll read him a short story after the baby is quiet. More than likely, he'll have fallen asleep before you get back in there. If not, short story, kisses, prayers, and quiet. Let him have the book in bed (only hardback -- we learned the hard way) so he can look at the pics with a very dim lamp on. It will get better, but in the meantime, you get that nap!
the things that I have found most helpful in sleeping (I have a 3 month old) are:
1.) swaddle him! I use the ';miracle blanket'; (search amazon for this, it's awesome!). my son still startles himself awake at 3 months, unless i use this blanket. This is the thing that has made the MOST difference with my son, so definitely give it a try!
2.) use a pacifier to get them to sleep. this might not work for all babies, because some babies will wake up and cry when they lose the pacifier. my baby does NOT cry when he loses it after he's asleep and it helps him go to sleep so much!
3.) routine. every night i feed him around 8:30, in bed at 9. i read him 3 stories and then into the crib. he is so used to this already he falls asleep during the second story.
4.) i have a motion sensor under his mattress... it sounds an alarm if he stops breathing. This has really helped me sleep, as I don't have to worry at every little sound he makes (babies are noisy sleepers and he is in the same room with me)
Is there room for the baby in your room? It does make things easier for the night feeds and your boy wont be disturbed.Naps during the day are good too .As are kind relatives if you have them to help.Talking to the child health nurse might be useful too.Just remember different things work for different people. I used controlled crying (eventually!) on my son after consulting a specialist mother and baby unit. However they dont reccomend it under 6mths.Anothr source of sanity was a book by a Dr Christopher Green called Babies. He has another one called toddler taming which was a life saver Sorry to waffle on so long hope some of this helps
oh sweety i know it can be tough, do you wrap up your 4 1/2 month old still? i still wrap up my daughter and she sleeps so much better. how do you feel about co sleeping? i know its not '; recommended'; but if she will sleep better with you then maybe try that at least that way you will get some sleep as well. and maybe if your little boy doesn't hear her crying he wont wake up either ( fingers crossed). my daughter slept in with us for the first few weeks up until about a month and a half, then she transferred fine into her own bassinet. just remember, it does get easier, and things will seem a whole lot better once you've got their sleeping back on track. also try and have a rest when ever the kids are having a sleep during the day, even if you have to leave the dishes or whatever. getting a bit of rest is so much more important. good luck and i hope things get better soon.
My baby used to sleep from 7pm til 4am have a feed and sleep til 7am. She had a growth spurt 4 weeks ago and since then wakes twice for a feed( and several times more) Last night went like this:
7pm feed
7.30pm sleep
10pm awake but re-settled by herself
11pm awake searching for a feed. Fed her
12.45am awake would not re-settle even with my help
1.45am asleep
2.00am awake again for feed
2.20am back in cot would not re-settle not even when I rocked her
3am in bed with me went back to sleep
5.30am - 6.30am kept waking up and I kept patting her back to sleep.
Like I said on top of that my son woke like 10 times. I'm so tired I feel like I'm going to burst into tears. It's wearing me down. I don't think I can take much more of this.
My husband can't help much during the night as he has to get up for work at 4.45am.
Please help. Any help.Advice... Help.. Anything.. Please?
our little ones were like this,we put them on solids early,as they were always hungry,uset step up formula,and used lavender bubble bath and scent for there pillows(calming).
with your 4 yr old,pasta for tea is good,as its a complex carbohydrate,and takes time to break down,so makes you sleepy,try the lavender with him aswel,and be afectionate,so that he goes to sleep happy,less likely hel wake up then.
i know what you mean about no sleep though!
chin up,it does get betterAdvice... Help.. Anything.. Please?
I don't know why anyone has given aeden b thumbs down it sounds a good answer to me. All i will say is routine routine routine...it worked for mine xx
good luck hun
My husband also had to get up super early for work and couldnt help much. But he does come home! And you can take a NAP! It's not much, but it's something. Hand him the baby and go to sleep! Sounds like big brother is having a little trouble adjusting to baby as well. I know that it's hard, especially when you are pooped, but try not to let him come into bed with you. That will be a big battle you'll end up fighting in a few months. Do the kids share a room? If so, try to separate them. If not, talk to the oldest before bed. Explain to him you know how annoying it can be when the baby wakes everyone in the house up. And how hard it is to go back to sleep. But, he has to stay in his big boy bed. Tell him that if he has trouble going back to sleep you'll read him a short story after the baby is quiet. More than likely, he'll have fallen asleep before you get back in there. If not, short story, kisses, prayers, and quiet. Let him have the book in bed (only hardback -- we learned the hard way) so he can look at the pics with a very dim lamp on. It will get better, but in the meantime, you get that nap!
the things that I have found most helpful in sleeping (I have a 3 month old) are:
1.) swaddle him! I use the ';miracle blanket'; (search amazon for this, it's awesome!). my son still startles himself awake at 3 months, unless i use this blanket. This is the thing that has made the MOST difference with my son, so definitely give it a try!
2.) use a pacifier to get them to sleep. this might not work for all babies, because some babies will wake up and cry when they lose the pacifier. my baby does NOT cry when he loses it after he's asleep and it helps him go to sleep so much!
3.) routine. every night i feed him around 8:30, in bed at 9. i read him 3 stories and then into the crib. he is so used to this already he falls asleep during the second story.
4.) i have a motion sensor under his mattress... it sounds an alarm if he stops breathing. This has really helped me sleep, as I don't have to worry at every little sound he makes (babies are noisy sleepers and he is in the same room with me)
Is there room for the baby in your room? It does make things easier for the night feeds and your boy wont be disturbed.Naps during the day are good too .As are kind relatives if you have them to help.Talking to the child health nurse might be useful too.Just remember different things work for different people. I used controlled crying (eventually!) on my son after consulting a specialist mother and baby unit. However they dont reccomend it under 6mths.Anothr source of sanity was a book by a Dr Christopher Green called Babies. He has another one called toddler taming which was a life saver Sorry to waffle on so long hope some of this helps
oh sweety i know it can be tough, do you wrap up your 4 1/2 month old still? i still wrap up my daughter and she sleeps so much better. how do you feel about co sleeping? i know its not '; recommended'; but if she will sleep better with you then maybe try that at least that way you will get some sleep as well. and maybe if your little boy doesn't hear her crying he wont wake up either ( fingers crossed). my daughter slept in with us for the first few weeks up until about a month and a half, then she transferred fine into her own bassinet. just remember, it does get easier, and things will seem a whole lot better once you've got their sleeping back on track. also try and have a rest when ever the kids are having a sleep during the day, even if you have to leave the dishes or whatever. getting a bit of rest is so much more important. good luck and i hope things get better soon.
Advice/Help, Heartbroken while Pregnant.
I am severely depressed. I am ten weeks and four days pregnant, and about two weeks ago the baby's dad left me. I am doing and trying my best to get over him, but it hurts so bad, how can he do this to us? Its our first kid. I know I can't keep going on like this. He goes out every night and I sit at home crying. I know its probably worse with my hormones like crazy. But I am devastated. I just want someone to feel with me. Please Advice/Help, Heartbroken while Pregnant.
You are definitely not alone. My boyfriend broke up with me 2 weeks ago at my 3rd month of pregnancy. I did nothing wrong. Another woman called me from his cell phone. Apparently he was cheating on me with her for at least 2 months. He lied to her and told her that he broke up with me two months ago and that he knows nothing about a pregnancy. I guess she bought his lies and that they are a couple while the baby and I are left in the dust.
At first I was devastated; however, at least I know the truth and can move on with my life without being fooled. I am a religious person and despite the fact that this pregnancy is not going in an ideal fashion, I believe God must have a plan. God has a plan for all of us mothers who have tremendous strength while the fathers of our babies punk out, either due to fear or weakness.
Our maternal nature is a blessing to us and our children. God will look favorably on us for doing the right thing, while the fathers who do not do the right thing will be judged for their cowardice.
Be Strong. We will get the love we deserve from our children and from the right man when the time is appointed by the Almighty.
Advice/Help, Heartbroken while Pregnant.
Please feel free to e-mail me at WorldSisterCrafts@yahoo.com, whenever you are feeling down or need a friend.
I'm sorry to hear that, it must be really hard on you. But the truth is, nothing any of us can say will make u feel better, the facts are still the same. All you need to think about is you and your baby. It is his loss that he has lost you both and i'm sure he will regret it at some point. Take strength from the fact u are going to have a beautiful little baby, and he/she will never leave you. Put all your time and energy spent on thinking of him into something positive like planning the babys nursery. It will still hurt, but your pain will start to ease as time goes by. Just try to keep yourself occupied. What helped me in the past when i broke up with someone was to list all the things bad about them, or things they did against u, it helps you see things in a more balanced positive way. I wish u and your baby good luck.
I'm sorry to hear that and I know you might have already heard this but the only thing you can do is get over it. He doesn't want you and that's your gain in the long run. If he didn't stick around now he was never going to and that would have been harder on the baby. Just think of what a wonderful person your gonna have in your life very soon. Oh and I bet it sucks to see him partying and everything but once the baby is here and you take him to court and suck him dry with child support he probably won't be able to go out very much. Good Luck!!
Im sorry that you have to go through this, I was 3 months pregnant when the Dad left me. It hurts but you do get over it. Now im 39 weeks pregnant and no word from him. I know its hard but try not to think about him or worry about what he is doing. Just worry about taking care of you and your baby. If you all are meant to be together he will come back. But if not take it as a blessing him being gone. I wish you all the luck in the world. And congrats on you going to have a little baby there such joy.
I am so sorry to hear that. It will hurt really bad for awhile but just remember it will get better. You will get over him and move on and find someone better who will be a good husband and lover to you and a good daddy and provider for your baby. I know that right now it feels like you will never feel better again but you will, Good luck and congrats on that baby. Take care of yourself and your baby
i am 29 weeks and my babysdaddy broke it off with me in the beginning of my pregnancy dated another girl then tryied to get back with me then thought he got another girl pregnant a month ago. i kno the pain your feeling and its easier said then done but u really should just think about you and that baby right now... not him. all a baby needs is their momma anyway =]
good luck to you
Listen I have been there and I am there again with our second child. The only thing you can do is take it one day at a time. It will get better with time trust me. You will never fully get over it but it does get better. If you need to talk to anyone you can email me and I will let you know what all I have done to get over it. Also, look at it this way: You got the best thing that he had to offer you. That is also how I looked at it. You know what it is true. You got the best thing he had to offer you and it is his loss.
I am so sorry that you are going threw this I know what it is like to be left while you are pregnant. My advice for you is to deal with it the best that you can but you can't get that stressed out I almost lost my baby that way. If you need some one to vent to you can contact me davidsfreak@yahoo.com
Wow that is awe full. What was his excuse? Don't call him and if he calls don't answer every time if you want him back.Though any guy that would leave someone when they are pregnant I don't know if I would want them back.I am really sorry. I wish you the best and will keep you in my prayers.
I am sooo sorry that you have to deal with this during what is supposed to be the happiest time in your life! You are a mom now. You are strong and you can pick yourself up and do this. Show this child that it's mother is strong, independant and willing to do anything for him/her. Even though baby isn't here yet, it can feel your love for it. Talk to your doctor at your next visit and hopefully they can help!! Good luck!!
I'm sorry. =[
I believe in the quote ';what doesn't kill you only makes you stronger';. So stay strong.
I know it's not much help but there's plenty of pregnant girls on here to share your ups and down with... =]
And get out and do something! You're pregnant - not dead! You don't have to drink to have fun. Do something YOU like to do. If you focus on your baby and making yourself happy, you'll get through this.
I am sorry to hear that you are having a bad time. At this point, you are going to have to think about yourself and what you have to do to make sure you are alright. Talk to friends and family to help you in your situation. If you are seeking confort, they are the best people to go to.
im sorry hun. I know how you feel though im still married to mine. And he goes out with his buds every chance he gets. Thy just dont give a sh*t. Just try your best to think about the baby and yourself. Thats all you can do.
im sorry to hear that your world is turning upside down like this. it's hard to do deal with crap like that in life let alone deal with it when dealing with preggie hormones. i can't do much but send you a virual hug {{{}}}
I'm so sorry you're going through this. What a jerk to up and leave you like that! Just stay strong and know that you will be a wonderful mother!
WOW!!! THE SAME thing happened to me! I was only 9 weeks, but 10 weeks when I got it confirmed! I was so sad and cried and even cried like crazy the day before I went to the ER (i went in for severe cramps), but once I saw that baby on the screen I forgot about my sadness... I was okay for about a couple of days until I saw the father to give him a copy of the sonogram. Then they all came back! Our baby was wanted and planned and then when he just bailed on me. He's shown interest in being part of the baby's life... calling me crying (confusing me even more) and his family tell me to give him time that he'll come around. I know he goes out every weekend like crazy and drinks... and I just recently found out he's been messing around with some one chic. He won't admit it to me but I know... I know it's hard and easier said then done, but just try and focus on you and the baby. The baby feels everything you feel. I have my moments and I feel so alone at times. Even though I have my familys support and his family as well, I still feel lonley. He just completely changed it's like I dont even know him. In time I know him leaving me was the best thing he could have done. If you need someone to chat with you can email me @ neyda_r@yahoo.com. I'll keep you in my prayers. Hopefully he'll wake up and realize he's missing out on the most beautiful moment of his life and ya can work things out.
Pity you. He's a real JERK to leave you. Damn him.
Crying every night won't help you get anyway. Cying every night would give side effects to the baby... your baby might look sad when he/she is born. So,get on with your life, find something to do to make yourself busy, instead of thinking being hurt. Go out and hang out with some good friends who are willing to be a good listener and share your feelings. You would feel better when you release your anger.
Think about the bright future of you and your baby. Be happy. Unless you are willing to give the baby away for adoption later.
Meanwhile, take great care of yourself and the little one inside. He/she is the LIGHT to your life....
I am SOOO sorry. I know how devastating a break up can be, and you're right, your hormones probably are not helping any. Do you and he still talk? I hope for the baby's sake the two of you can try to be friends. All I can say is cry when you want, talk to those who care so you don't keep anything bottled up inside you, and concentrate on that wonderful miracle growing inside you! Your baby will always love you, and that love is way better than any man's love. Spend time planning the nursery (or the baby's area in your room), google for baby names, read up on your pregnancy week by week (online or in books), look at ultrasound pictures to see what stage your baby is at, just fill as much of your free time with thoughts of that precious bundle of joy. In every time of heartache, there is something good that can come from it. Sometimes you just have to look for it. I wish you all the luck you need. Stay strong and positive. Do it for yourself and your baby! I don't know you, but you sound like you have a big heart full of love. That baby is lucky to have you!!!! So please, take just one moment and SMILE!!! You can do it!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
You are definitely not alone. My boyfriend broke up with me 2 weeks ago at my 3rd month of pregnancy. I did nothing wrong. Another woman called me from his cell phone. Apparently he was cheating on me with her for at least 2 months. He lied to her and told her that he broke up with me two months ago and that he knows nothing about a pregnancy. I guess she bought his lies and that they are a couple while the baby and I are left in the dust.
At first I was devastated; however, at least I know the truth and can move on with my life without being fooled. I am a religious person and despite the fact that this pregnancy is not going in an ideal fashion, I believe God must have a plan. God has a plan for all of us mothers who have tremendous strength while the fathers of our babies punk out, either due to fear or weakness.
Our maternal nature is a blessing to us and our children. God will look favorably on us for doing the right thing, while the fathers who do not do the right thing will be judged for their cowardice.
Be Strong. We will get the love we deserve from our children and from the right man when the time is appointed by the Almighty.
Advice/Help, Heartbroken while Pregnant.
Please feel free to e-mail me at WorldSisterCrafts@yahoo.com, whenever you are feeling down or need a friend.
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I'm sorry to hear that, it must be really hard on you. But the truth is, nothing any of us can say will make u feel better, the facts are still the same. All you need to think about is you and your baby. It is his loss that he has lost you both and i'm sure he will regret it at some point. Take strength from the fact u are going to have a beautiful little baby, and he/she will never leave you. Put all your time and energy spent on thinking of him into something positive like planning the babys nursery. It will still hurt, but your pain will start to ease as time goes by. Just try to keep yourself occupied. What helped me in the past when i broke up with someone was to list all the things bad about them, or things they did against u, it helps you see things in a more balanced positive way. I wish u and your baby good luck.
I'm sorry to hear that and I know you might have already heard this but the only thing you can do is get over it. He doesn't want you and that's your gain in the long run. If he didn't stick around now he was never going to and that would have been harder on the baby. Just think of what a wonderful person your gonna have in your life very soon. Oh and I bet it sucks to see him partying and everything but once the baby is here and you take him to court and suck him dry with child support he probably won't be able to go out very much. Good Luck!!
Im sorry that you have to go through this, I was 3 months pregnant when the Dad left me. It hurts but you do get over it. Now im 39 weeks pregnant and no word from him. I know its hard but try not to think about him or worry about what he is doing. Just worry about taking care of you and your baby. If you all are meant to be together he will come back. But if not take it as a blessing him being gone. I wish you all the luck in the world. And congrats on you going to have a little baby there such joy.
I am so sorry to hear that. It will hurt really bad for awhile but just remember it will get better. You will get over him and move on and find someone better who will be a good husband and lover to you and a good daddy and provider for your baby. I know that right now it feels like you will never feel better again but you will, Good luck and congrats on that baby. Take care of yourself and your baby
i am 29 weeks and my babysdaddy broke it off with me in the beginning of my pregnancy dated another girl then tryied to get back with me then thought he got another girl pregnant a month ago. i kno the pain your feeling and its easier said then done but u really should just think about you and that baby right now... not him. all a baby needs is their momma anyway =]
good luck to you
Listen I have been there and I am there again with our second child. The only thing you can do is take it one day at a time. It will get better with time trust me. You will never fully get over it but it does get better. If you need to talk to anyone you can email me and I will let you know what all I have done to get over it. Also, look at it this way: You got the best thing that he had to offer you. That is also how I looked at it. You know what it is true. You got the best thing he had to offer you and it is his loss.
I am so sorry that you are going threw this I know what it is like to be left while you are pregnant. My advice for you is to deal with it the best that you can but you can't get that stressed out I almost lost my baby that way. If you need some one to vent to you can contact me davidsfreak@yahoo.com
Wow that is awe full. What was his excuse? Don't call him and if he calls don't answer every time if you want him back.Though any guy that would leave someone when they are pregnant I don't know if I would want them back.I am really sorry. I wish you the best and will keep you in my prayers.
I am sooo sorry that you have to deal with this during what is supposed to be the happiest time in your life! You are a mom now. You are strong and you can pick yourself up and do this. Show this child that it's mother is strong, independant and willing to do anything for him/her. Even though baby isn't here yet, it can feel your love for it. Talk to your doctor at your next visit and hopefully they can help!! Good luck!!
I'm sorry. =[
I believe in the quote ';what doesn't kill you only makes you stronger';. So stay strong.
I know it's not much help but there's plenty of pregnant girls on here to share your ups and down with... =]
And get out and do something! You're pregnant - not dead! You don't have to drink to have fun. Do something YOU like to do. If you focus on your baby and making yourself happy, you'll get through this.
I am sorry to hear that you are having a bad time. At this point, you are going to have to think about yourself and what you have to do to make sure you are alright. Talk to friends and family to help you in your situation. If you are seeking confort, they are the best people to go to.
im sorry hun. I know how you feel though im still married to mine. And he goes out with his buds every chance he gets. Thy just dont give a sh*t. Just try your best to think about the baby and yourself. Thats all you can do.
im sorry to hear that your world is turning upside down like this. it's hard to do deal with crap like that in life let alone deal with it when dealing with preggie hormones. i can't do much but send you a virual hug {{{}}}
I'm so sorry you're going through this. What a jerk to up and leave you like that! Just stay strong and know that you will be a wonderful mother!
WOW!!! THE SAME thing happened to me! I was only 9 weeks, but 10 weeks when I got it confirmed! I was so sad and cried and even cried like crazy the day before I went to the ER (i went in for severe cramps), but once I saw that baby on the screen I forgot about my sadness... I was okay for about a couple of days until I saw the father to give him a copy of the sonogram. Then they all came back! Our baby was wanted and planned and then when he just bailed on me. He's shown interest in being part of the baby's life... calling me crying (confusing me even more) and his family tell me to give him time that he'll come around. I know he goes out every weekend like crazy and drinks... and I just recently found out he's been messing around with some one chic. He won't admit it to me but I know... I know it's hard and easier said then done, but just try and focus on you and the baby. The baby feels everything you feel. I have my moments and I feel so alone at times. Even though I have my familys support and his family as well, I still feel lonley. He just completely changed it's like I dont even know him. In time I know him leaving me was the best thing he could have done. If you need someone to chat with you can email me @ neyda_r@yahoo.com. I'll keep you in my prayers. Hopefully he'll wake up and realize he's missing out on the most beautiful moment of his life and ya can work things out.
Pity you. He's a real JERK to leave you. Damn him.
Crying every night won't help you get anyway. Cying every night would give side effects to the baby... your baby might look sad when he/she is born. So,get on with your life, find something to do to make yourself busy, instead of thinking being hurt. Go out and hang out with some good friends who are willing to be a good listener and share your feelings. You would feel better when you release your anger.
Think about the bright future of you and your baby. Be happy. Unless you are willing to give the baby away for adoption later.
Meanwhile, take great care of yourself and the little one inside. He/she is the LIGHT to your life....
I am SOOO sorry. I know how devastating a break up can be, and you're right, your hormones probably are not helping any. Do you and he still talk? I hope for the baby's sake the two of you can try to be friends. All I can say is cry when you want, talk to those who care so you don't keep anything bottled up inside you, and concentrate on that wonderful miracle growing inside you! Your baby will always love you, and that love is way better than any man's love. Spend time planning the nursery (or the baby's area in your room), google for baby names, read up on your pregnancy week by week (online or in books), look at ultrasound pictures to see what stage your baby is at, just fill as much of your free time with thoughts of that precious bundle of joy. In every time of heartache, there is something good that can come from it. Sometimes you just have to look for it. I wish you all the luck you need. Stay strong and positive. Do it for yourself and your baby! I don't know you, but you sound like you have a big heart full of love. That baby is lucky to have you!!!! So please, take just one moment and SMILE!!! You can do it!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Advice/ help appreciated; 10 pts.!!!!?
I really like a guy I work with who's like 6 years older than me. I'm pretty mature for my age I'm17 and at the AoC (age of consent). He's an assistant manager and I've been told doesn't believe in ';fishing from the company pond';. I've been told he finds me attractive by a few different people. He knows I like him, and he flirts all the time. Only with me too, which is annoying considering he hasn't acted on it.
I've been trying to let it go and move on. We're not extremely close friends or anything, we just talk back and forth every so often. I'm really shy, I blush when I talk to him about anything. (I never really used to as much; now I've just become overbearingly shy and can barely speak to him.) Over the past few days I've been completely avoiding talking to him or being around him. He seems concerned, and has attempted to listen in when I talk to my friends (who are also my co workers) about it.
At this point, though It would be nice, I'm not after a relationship. I just want my independence. I just want him to act or let it go. If it can't happen then I don't want to make an awkward situation worse by saying something. (As I said before, he KNOWS I like him, he should say something if he feels the same way)
Another thing is that he doesn't drive, and I do. It kind of bothers me...
how should I handle this?Advice/ help appreciated; 10 pts.!!!!?
If you don't feel conformable telling him yourself write a letter to him and have a friend give it to him after your shift is over. Tell him if he likes you he better make a move cause you're not gonna be a sitting duck for long. In the letter tell him that you don't plan on working where you are forever cause I'm assuming your gonna go to college or try to find a better job so it's not like it would make a werid work environment and you would keep it totally professional inside of the work place. Tell him that if he wants ya he'd better make a move leave your cell phone number on the letter you write and leave it at that. If he doesn't respond he's just not that into you and he don't know what he's missing.Advice/ help appreciated; 10 pts.!!!!?
I worked in an office full of secretary's. If you are willing to open your life to every ones opinions,... You also state you're not in a relationship, You don't say much about this man-likes you, doesn't drive. At 17 you're interested in a man who is 23. Why doesn't he drive? Do you realize that a boy 6 years younger than you would be 11. A friend of mine had an 11 year old sister who wanted to have sex with me when I was 13. This made no sense to me. There was no question in my mind-that was not going to happen.
Just be friends with him. Build on friendship if u want so that if u end up working s'where else you two might have a chance. Flirt back if u want. Don't put ur heart into it and don't b so serious. He might not want to go to jail b/ ur 17. He can't act if he's a supervisor anyway. Besides a little fun at work doesn't hurt anyone. B light hearted. Find another fish in the sea.
I've been trying to let it go and move on. We're not extremely close friends or anything, we just talk back and forth every so often. I'm really shy, I blush when I talk to him about anything. (I never really used to as much; now I've just become overbearingly shy and can barely speak to him.) Over the past few days I've been completely avoiding talking to him or being around him. He seems concerned, and has attempted to listen in when I talk to my friends (who are also my co workers) about it.
At this point, though It would be nice, I'm not after a relationship. I just want my independence. I just want him to act or let it go. If it can't happen then I don't want to make an awkward situation worse by saying something. (As I said before, he KNOWS I like him, he should say something if he feels the same way)
Another thing is that he doesn't drive, and I do. It kind of bothers me...
how should I handle this?Advice/ help appreciated; 10 pts.!!!!?
If you don't feel conformable telling him yourself write a letter to him and have a friend give it to him after your shift is over. Tell him if he likes you he better make a move cause you're not gonna be a sitting duck for long. In the letter tell him that you don't plan on working where you are forever cause I'm assuming your gonna go to college or try to find a better job so it's not like it would make a werid work environment and you would keep it totally professional inside of the work place. Tell him that if he wants ya he'd better make a move leave your cell phone number on the letter you write and leave it at that. If he doesn't respond he's just not that into you and he don't know what he's missing.Advice/ help appreciated; 10 pts.!!!!?
I worked in an office full of secretary's. If you are willing to open your life to every ones opinions,... You also state you're not in a relationship, You don't say much about this man-likes you, doesn't drive. At 17 you're interested in a man who is 23. Why doesn't he drive? Do you realize that a boy 6 years younger than you would be 11. A friend of mine had an 11 year old sister who wanted to have sex with me when I was 13. This made no sense to me. There was no question in my mind-that was not going to happen.
Just be friends with him. Build on friendship if u want so that if u end up working s'where else you two might have a chance. Flirt back if u want. Don't put ur heart into it and don't b so serious. He might not want to go to jail b/ ur 17. He can't act if he's a supervisor anyway. Besides a little fun at work doesn't hurt anyone. B light hearted. Find another fish in the sea.
HEPA LAW QUESTION ....Advice & Help, please.?
A few months ago, my husband and I took our 2 year old daughter to the local ER. Because we couldn't get a sitter,
we brought our 3 year old, as well. The registration desk only asked my husband to sign our daughter in. He did. Normally, that wouldn't have been a problem. However, the hospital did not record any of the information off our insurance cards. So,
several bills arrived in my daughter's name. I opened them and called the places to provide them with insurance info.
They wouldn't even talk to me or take the information to bill
the insurance because I wasn't my daughter. I explained that she is only 2 and a half years old. They still wouldn't do anything because of the HEPA Law. I went back there and showed them her birth certificate and my photo id and the insurace info, still they said they couldn't discuss anything with me. Ideas or advice on what to do, please?HEPA LAW QUESTION ....Advice %26amp; Help, please.?
Sounds like something got transposed on her paperwork that is not reflecting her age.
I would suggest calling the billing department, again explaining the problem. If they do not answer our question ask to speak to the head of the department or departmental manager. HIPPA Laws are a bite on the butt for health care - they are great for protecting privacy, but when an error occurs they make it a nightmare to correct because of not releasing information. Be calm, and work your way up the chaing. You know there is an error, but the person on the other end of the phone opr across the counter has been confronted by numerous people over the years who were not always as honest.HEPA LAW QUESTION ....Advice %26amp; Help, please.?
Get the hospital financial office on the line and explain it to them; and probaby have to get the hospital administrative office on the line as well. The front desk is not the answer.
Its HIPPA, and that sounds like something the insurance companies pull. The hospital needs to resubmit the claims with you listed as the policyholder and her as a dependent, or have your husband call the insurance company.
I WOULD CALL AND ASK FOR A MANAGER-THEN I WOULD EXPLANE TO THEM THAT YOUR DAUGHTER IS 2. IF THEY GIVE YOU A HARD TIME, WELL HAND THE PHONE TO YOUR DAUGHTER! (LOL) GOOD LUCK-I WOULD CALL EVERYDAY TO GET THIS RESOLVED. ALSO-THE HIPPA LAW WILL ALLOW THE PARENT ACCESS TO INFORMATION IF THE PATIENT IS A MINOR.
As with many businesses today, insurance, credit cards, banks, credit unions, and the medical area, many of the ';normal'; practices don't work anymore UNLESS they talk to the owner/holder/name of record. Simply have your husband call with the information, since he signed her in.
we brought our 3 year old, as well. The registration desk only asked my husband to sign our daughter in. He did. Normally, that wouldn't have been a problem. However, the hospital did not record any of the information off our insurance cards. So,
several bills arrived in my daughter's name. I opened them and called the places to provide them with insurance info.
They wouldn't even talk to me or take the information to bill
the insurance because I wasn't my daughter. I explained that she is only 2 and a half years old. They still wouldn't do anything because of the HEPA Law. I went back there and showed them her birth certificate and my photo id and the insurace info, still they said they couldn't discuss anything with me. Ideas or advice on what to do, please?HEPA LAW QUESTION ....Advice %26amp; Help, please.?
Sounds like something got transposed on her paperwork that is not reflecting her age.
I would suggest calling the billing department, again explaining the problem. If they do not answer our question ask to speak to the head of the department or departmental manager. HIPPA Laws are a bite on the butt for health care - they are great for protecting privacy, but when an error occurs they make it a nightmare to correct because of not releasing information. Be calm, and work your way up the chaing. You know there is an error, but the person on the other end of the phone opr across the counter has been confronted by numerous people over the years who were not always as honest.HEPA LAW QUESTION ....Advice %26amp; Help, please.?
Get the hospital financial office on the line and explain it to them; and probaby have to get the hospital administrative office on the line as well. The front desk is not the answer.
Its HIPPA, and that sounds like something the insurance companies pull. The hospital needs to resubmit the claims with you listed as the policyholder and her as a dependent, or have your husband call the insurance company.
I WOULD CALL AND ASK FOR A MANAGER-THEN I WOULD EXPLANE TO THEM THAT YOUR DAUGHTER IS 2. IF THEY GIVE YOU A HARD TIME, WELL HAND THE PHONE TO YOUR DAUGHTER! (LOL) GOOD LUCK-I WOULD CALL EVERYDAY TO GET THIS RESOLVED. ALSO-THE HIPPA LAW WILL ALLOW THE PARENT ACCESS TO INFORMATION IF THE PATIENT IS A MINOR.
As with many businesses today, insurance, credit cards, banks, credit unions, and the medical area, many of the ';normal'; practices don't work anymore UNLESS they talk to the owner/holder/name of record. Simply have your husband call with the information, since he signed her in.
Need a some advice / help?
Im 21 yrs old and i currenty dont have a job lost my last job a month ago. I had one interview since then. I try to apply to one place a day. I also I dont drive cause, to myself I wasnt ready till about 3 months ago and I use my mothers car to drive people if they have to go some where for now till im READY to take the test. I have a bf that I have been dating since 4/06 and he is 29. He is telling me that he wants me to get a job and my license by Dec. If not he is leaving me, he want to go to the next step in our relationship like living together and what not. I know he has the ring cause he told me if you dont do that your never getting it ever. If you do, do that you well get it. I dont want to get casue of all of that. I want to be a suprise. Also I feel towarn between both him and my parents as well. I want to please both at the same time but i cant. I dont want to lose him at all plus I dont want my parent to give up on me and say forget it cause of him. HELP ME!Need a some advice / help?
Your 21......
Are you going to school?
Why are you only applying to one job a day? You should at least apply to 10-15 day, depending on how big the city is you live in.
A lot of men will drop you if they see that your not doing anything with your self. Your man sounds no different, he is an older man that wants to see his woman doing something to better her self and not living off of him, or her mama...
So now you should really work on your self. Your so young get involved in school, and other things to keep you busy.
Take careNeed a some advice / help?
I wouldn't want to marry someone that didn't have a job or a car either. He just wants you to aspire to be more then that. Marriage is about building lives TOGETHER, he's probably worried that to be with you means to support you.
Wow!!! First of all sweetie, who is he to give you an ultimatum?? Sounds like he is trying to controll you and thats not something you need in life. If you do these things do them for you, not because he told you to.whiteheads
Your 21......
Are you going to school?
Why are you only applying to one job a day? You should at least apply to 10-15 day, depending on how big the city is you live in.
A lot of men will drop you if they see that your not doing anything with your self. Your man sounds no different, he is an older man that wants to see his woman doing something to better her self and not living off of him, or her mama...
So now you should really work on your self. Your so young get involved in school, and other things to keep you busy.
Take careNeed a some advice / help?
I wouldn't want to marry someone that didn't have a job or a car either. He just wants you to aspire to be more then that. Marriage is about building lives TOGETHER, he's probably worried that to be with you means to support you.
Wow!!! First of all sweetie, who is he to give you an ultimatum?? Sounds like he is trying to controll you and thats not something you need in life. If you do these things do them for you, not because he told you to.
I don't like my little sister please help me I need advice?
My little sister is almost 4 and I'm almost 13 she gets what ever she wants cause no one wants to hear her cry.Everyone always says aw she is so cute. I am sick of it. Please help me what do I need some advice. It's getting to the point that I hate my little sister. When I try to tell my family how I feel they say she is just a baby and she doesn't know and I do. I don't like my little sister please help me I need advice?
Yep I hated my baby sister also. But guess what? We are grown-up now and when I had breast cancer guess who held my hand during chemotherapy etc. Yep my sister! She's 13 years younger but we do get along so much better now.
You'll both grow up one of these days and I hope you are as good as friends as my sister and me.I don't like my little sister please help me I need advice?
They are right that she is just a little toddler, but you are right in that she needs more discipline in her life. People are pretty much teaching her how to get whatever she wants and how to manipulate adults which will probably lead to problems when she gets to school. It's not your sister's fault though, so you should avoid getting angry at her. Instead, you should try to spend time with your sister and play with her, but don't let her push you around. I think that in this way you would be able to have more control over her behavior, which is what you need, and she will have more discipline in her life which will help her in the long run. It may not be fun at first, but you two will probably become close in the future.
You're jealous of your sister because she's little and get what she wants, which is exactly how you were treated when you were a baby. You need to just grow up, accept that you're the older sibling and just deal with it. She wont go away, regardless of how annoying she gets, so show your maturity with your family and just stay away from her.
i know what you are feeling but just think about this...God gives you a little sister in order to experience new things in life and to have understanding,love,respect and other values.anyway,i think that you're really important to your family or parents because without you,who would ever take care with your sister?!right?they really really need you!just always think that without you you're family that you're with..ISN'T COMPLETE!:)
sell her on Ebay, that usually get a good amount of people looking to buy stuff, just make sure they have a 90% plus rating
Comin from a large family, i say blame your parents, i aleays did %26amp; now they still don't like me
O %26amp; wait till there finished school %26amp; still act like it
HA HA I'M ALREADY CRAZY
we the older sisters always need to give for our lil sis.well, it's a fact that u hate ur sister.the age gap is too much,and sometimes its a shock to have a sister with 9 years of being solo. maybe you should just get over it.tell ur parents that u r their daughter too,need attention too here.advice ur parents not to treat the lil sis too much,or she'll be getting very demanding.and when dat time has come,blame ur parents then
...ive two younger sisters...me 19 ..thw younger one 15 and the youngest 7..!!! and she being 7 is always let off with her mistkes and again gets what she wants but huney this is normal..!!
Stop hating ur sister ...she really is in no position to exactly understnd her own or anybdy else's actions...!! she is a todd......i thnk u shud be the one more sacrifyng ....dnt get pissed at ur familys reactions..its so wit evry famly..!!
my 7 yr old sis is like that...no matter wht mistake she does we let her off......i had the same kinda feeling for my sis who is now 15 wen we were young but trust me ryt nw she is da person i lov da most and can count on da most..!!
I had the same problem with my little sister, for her it was just a phase. Just dont put up with it the way your parents do. Treat her like she is older than 4. Then she will act different around you. If you dont let her get away with things, she wont try to.
i felt exactly the same with my little bro. it's just because of her age. don't let her see how you feel now and play with her as much as possible. once she reaches 6/7 you'll want to spend everyday with her
Try doing more things with your sister. If that doesn't work , you can try to hang out with your friends more often. Sometimes getting out of the house is all you need.
She is just a kid so you should let some of the things go. But maybe you should get a lock for your room, and hang out with your friends more! And if you do, don't do anything stupid!
just do whatever it taked to do something about her and be true to yourslef no matter what
I reccommend a good travel agent.
welcome to being an older sister,stop being selfish.
just tell here
You are 13, meaning a teen. Don't you think honey it is just a bit silly to be jealous of a 4 year old tyke. At that age, even your were fussed over, and you don't remember it, it's not the babies fault is it. And I am sure you were cute at that time and everyone called you that. Now that is her turn, you are being self-centred cause you think no one is paying you attention. Tell me can she do everything for herself that you can? And as she grows old, she will be compared to you, ';oh your older sister is so much well mannered, studious blah blah, how do you think she will feel being baby-ed, she is old enough to understand, and won't be able to do all the things you will, like going to party, going on date, going out by yourself with friends. etc!
I would understand your feeling had she been just a year or two younger, but this almost a decade between you two. I have little baby sister, (I am 45 and she is 32) and to me she is like a daughter, and I treat her as one. So honey forget the jealousy, everyone loves you as well, but you have already gone through those stages, now be graceful and let the little one have some attention. Be a loving older sister, and you will have a faithful loving sister, who will want to be just like her elder sister.
Yep I hated my baby sister also. But guess what? We are grown-up now and when I had breast cancer guess who held my hand during chemotherapy etc. Yep my sister! She's 13 years younger but we do get along so much better now.
You'll both grow up one of these days and I hope you are as good as friends as my sister and me.I don't like my little sister please help me I need advice?
They are right that she is just a little toddler, but you are right in that she needs more discipline in her life. People are pretty much teaching her how to get whatever she wants and how to manipulate adults which will probably lead to problems when she gets to school. It's not your sister's fault though, so you should avoid getting angry at her. Instead, you should try to spend time with your sister and play with her, but don't let her push you around. I think that in this way you would be able to have more control over her behavior, which is what you need, and she will have more discipline in her life which will help her in the long run. It may not be fun at first, but you two will probably become close in the future.
You're jealous of your sister because she's little and get what she wants, which is exactly how you were treated when you were a baby. You need to just grow up, accept that you're the older sibling and just deal with it. She wont go away, regardless of how annoying she gets, so show your maturity with your family and just stay away from her.
i know what you are feeling but just think about this...God gives you a little sister in order to experience new things in life and to have understanding,love,respect and other values.anyway,i think that you're really important to your family or parents because without you,who would ever take care with your sister?!right?they really really need you!just always think that without you you're family that you're with..ISN'T COMPLETE!:)
sell her on Ebay, that usually get a good amount of people looking to buy stuff, just make sure they have a 90% plus rating
Comin from a large family, i say blame your parents, i aleays did %26amp; now they still don't like me
O %26amp; wait till there finished school %26amp; still act like it
HA HA I'M ALREADY CRAZY
we the older sisters always need to give for our lil sis.well, it's a fact that u hate ur sister.the age gap is too much,and sometimes its a shock to have a sister with 9 years of being solo. maybe you should just get over it.tell ur parents that u r their daughter too,need attention too here.advice ur parents not to treat the lil sis too much,or she'll be getting very demanding.and when dat time has come,blame ur parents then
...ive two younger sisters...me 19 ..thw younger one 15 and the youngest 7..!!! and she being 7 is always let off with her mistkes and again gets what she wants but huney this is normal..!!
Stop hating ur sister ...she really is in no position to exactly understnd her own or anybdy else's actions...!! she is a todd......i thnk u shud be the one more sacrifyng ....dnt get pissed at ur familys reactions..its so wit evry famly..!!
my 7 yr old sis is like that...no matter wht mistake she does we let her off......i had the same kinda feeling for my sis who is now 15 wen we were young but trust me ryt nw she is da person i lov da most and can count on da most..!!
I had the same problem with my little sister, for her it was just a phase. Just dont put up with it the way your parents do. Treat her like she is older than 4. Then she will act different around you. If you dont let her get away with things, she wont try to.
i felt exactly the same with my little bro. it's just because of her age. don't let her see how you feel now and play with her as much as possible. once she reaches 6/7 you'll want to spend everyday with her
Try doing more things with your sister. If that doesn't work , you can try to hang out with your friends more often. Sometimes getting out of the house is all you need.
She is just a kid so you should let some of the things go. But maybe you should get a lock for your room, and hang out with your friends more! And if you do, don't do anything stupid!
just do whatever it taked to do something about her and be true to yourslef no matter what
I reccommend a good travel agent.
welcome to being an older sister,stop being selfish.
just tell here
You are 13, meaning a teen. Don't you think honey it is just a bit silly to be jealous of a 4 year old tyke. At that age, even your were fussed over, and you don't remember it, it's not the babies fault is it. And I am sure you were cute at that time and everyone called you that. Now that is her turn, you are being self-centred cause you think no one is paying you attention. Tell me can she do everything for herself that you can? And as she grows old, she will be compared to you, ';oh your older sister is so much well mannered, studious blah blah, how do you think she will feel being baby-ed, she is old enough to understand, and won't be able to do all the things you will, like going to party, going on date, going out by yourself with friends. etc!
I would understand your feeling had she been just a year or two younger, but this almost a decade between you two. I have little baby sister, (I am 45 and she is 32) and to me she is like a daughter, and I treat her as one. So honey forget the jealousy, everyone loves you as well, but you have already gone through those stages, now be graceful and let the little one have some attention. Be a loving older sister, and you will have a faithful loving sister, who will want to be just like her elder sister.
Guys I need advice?Help!!?
How do i get guys 2 like me and want 2 ask me out? How do i get guys 2 fall in love wit me?Guys I need advice?Help!!?
It may just be me but i wouldn't play hard to get if i were you. If a girl doesn't seem available to me I'd move on. Make sure you take a shower everyday and smelling nice would be a plus. Make sure your teeth are nice n' clean and smile a lot to show them off. When dressing, kinda depending, you should go with ';beautiful'; instead of ';sexy.'; Sexy may draw more attention but it sends across a negative message ya know?
Good luck!Guys I need advice?Help!!?
you shouldnt group together guys liking you and guys falling in love with you. If you're young enough to be asking this, you're probably not ready to fall in love. just be yourself and be as outgoing as you can be while being genuine =)
flirt
You have to wait. You don't have any more control over it than wether it's day or night. Be yourself in the meanwhile.
That is the thing you can't make guys like you. You just have to find the one who likes what you already have. Don't try to change yourself for a guy.
flrit wit them......and just pick one....
Tight shirts, lots of make up, and high heels.
It may just be me but i wouldn't play hard to get if i were you. If a girl doesn't seem available to me I'd move on. Make sure you take a shower everyday and smelling nice would be a plus. Make sure your teeth are nice n' clean and smile a lot to show them off. When dressing, kinda depending, you should go with ';beautiful'; instead of ';sexy.'; Sexy may draw more attention but it sends across a negative message ya know?
Good luck!Guys I need advice?Help!!?
you shouldnt group together guys liking you and guys falling in love with you. If you're young enough to be asking this, you're probably not ready to fall in love. just be yourself and be as outgoing as you can be while being genuine =)
flirt
You have to wait. You don't have any more control over it than wether it's day or night. Be yourself in the meanwhile.
That is the thing you can't make guys like you. You just have to find the one who likes what you already have. Don't try to change yourself for a guy.
flrit wit them......and just pick one....
Tight shirts, lots of make up, and high heels.
I need some advice....Help!!!!?
Yesterday I posted a question about wanting to ask my cheating ex if he wanted to have a lil fling and now I found out that I wasn't the one cheated on but it was the other girl that he was with for 2 yrs that was cheated on. I kinda emailed her and let her kno wat he did to both of us. Am I wrong for ruining them she looked so happy in photos I saw of them together. What do I do now..I need some advice....Help!!!!?
Move on. You really can't do anyting bout it ny moreI need some advice....Help!!!!?
you kno what i think....girls should not trust guys 100% especially wen they have a cheating history...they never change..ive experienced this....my boy friend asked out soem girl he works with to go out wid him...and the girl said yea....and they went out for two months n i had no idea abou tit..neither did she....he was cheating on me...we neever broke up before he asked out the other girl...its about time...women ladies girls all females begin relationships after knowing the background of guys first...i had an awsoem relationship...it all got ****** .
She needed to know.
If it were you, you'd want to know.
Kudos.
Move on. You really can't do anyting bout it ny moreI need some advice....Help!!!!?
you kno what i think....girls should not trust guys 100% especially wen they have a cheating history...they never change..ive experienced this....my boy friend asked out soem girl he works with to go out wid him...and the girl said yea....and they went out for two months n i had no idea abou tit..neither did she....he was cheating on me...we neever broke up before he asked out the other girl...its about time...women ladies girls all females begin relationships after knowing the background of guys first...i had an awsoem relationship...it all got ****** .
She needed to know.
If it were you, you'd want to know.
Kudos.
8th GRADER NEEDS ADVICE HELP?! GIRLS ONLY?
I just asked a girl out by sending her an aol card i asked her to go to the 8th grade promotion dance with me, so waht do i do if she says yes, what if she says no to me in PERSON? Help me please thanx8th GRADER NEEDS ADVICE HELP?! GIRLS ONLY?
You probably should have asked her in person, and you would have known right away if she wanted to go with you. If she says no, then keep looking, but if she says yes, then have fun.8th GRADER NEEDS ADVICE HELP?! GIRLS ONLY?
If she says yes, great. If she says no, keep it cool, just say ok. It's not the end of the world, you'll live.
if she says yes... take things easy
DONT OVER CROWD HER
let her hang with her friends and
NO AKWARD SILENCES
if she says no... forget her...
she wasnt rite for you
if she says no its not the worst thing in the world get another girl to go with you and have a good time with her.then all will be good and well. ;)
TRUST ME NO MATTER WHAT HAPPENS YOU'LL LIVE. IF SHE SAYS YES YOU DRESS UP AND GO. IF SHE SAYS NO YOU GO TO THE MOVIES. THERE'S ALWAYS ANOTHER ONE.
well if she says no you can say that's okay and mention that you would still like to be friends. if she says yes then that's great meet her there and have a good time dancing the night away. either way i say you should still go to the dance cause you could still end up having a good time. i myself have never gone to a dance with a date but i still have fun hanging with friends. good luck and have fun!
ok if she says no then keep goin but if she says yes then show her a good time and follow ur heart
if she says no try not to worry about it im a 7th grader so i know you probly get tired of being told that because i get it told to me alot and if she says yes be your self and have a good time
Thats really sweet what you did and if she says yes you have to have a good time but still let her hang with her friends. if she says no then tell thats ok but dont say anything like i was jk anyways or so who needs you. that would be mean and rude and she would tell her friends that you are not nice or anything. and you might never end up with a gf.
Okay if the gurl says yes just show her a good time. Be yourself. And maby bring her a single red rose on the night of your dance. Every girl loves it when guys do that :)
And if she says no, well then just go on and try not to let your pain show. Don't get disprite and beg her its a magjor turn off. But if she says she already has a date act alittle disopionted but then ask her out to do something else like dinner.
You probably should have asked her in person, and you would have known right away if she wanted to go with you. If she says no, then keep looking, but if she says yes, then have fun.8th GRADER NEEDS ADVICE HELP?! GIRLS ONLY?
If she says yes, great. If she says no, keep it cool, just say ok. It's not the end of the world, you'll live.
if she says yes... take things easy
DONT OVER CROWD HER
let her hang with her friends and
NO AKWARD SILENCES
if she says no... forget her...
she wasnt rite for you
if she says no its not the worst thing in the world get another girl to go with you and have a good time with her.then all will be good and well. ;)
TRUST ME NO MATTER WHAT HAPPENS YOU'LL LIVE. IF SHE SAYS YES YOU DRESS UP AND GO. IF SHE SAYS NO YOU GO TO THE MOVIES. THERE'S ALWAYS ANOTHER ONE.
well if she says no you can say that's okay and mention that you would still like to be friends. if she says yes then that's great meet her there and have a good time dancing the night away. either way i say you should still go to the dance cause you could still end up having a good time. i myself have never gone to a dance with a date but i still have fun hanging with friends. good luck and have fun!
ok if she says no then keep goin but if she says yes then show her a good time and follow ur heart
if she says no try not to worry about it im a 7th grader so i know you probly get tired of being told that because i get it told to me alot and if she says yes be your self and have a good time
Thats really sweet what you did and if she says yes you have to have a good time but still let her hang with her friends. if she says no then tell thats ok but dont say anything like i was jk anyways or so who needs you. that would be mean and rude and she would tell her friends that you are not nice or anything. and you might never end up with a gf.
Okay if the gurl says yes just show her a good time. Be yourself. And maby bring her a single red rose on the night of your dance. Every girl loves it when guys do that :)
And if she says no, well then just go on and try not to let your pain show. Don't get disprite and beg her its a magjor turn off. But if she says she already has a date act alittle disopionted but then ask her out to do something else like dinner.
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