Would anyone mind offering Help/Advice?

Right, so I've been struggling to come to terms with the loss of my brother these past few weeks %26amp; now other things in my life are also starting to be affected - I can't sleep much and get roughly 4/5 hours a night. My eating habits have changed %26amp; my college grades have gone from straight As to Cs. My boyfriend has been such a sweetheart through all this, but I sense his patience is running thin.





Please could somebody help?


(My brother died in a car crash, 12 yrs old)Would anyone mind offering Help/Advice?
OMG that is so heartbreaking!





Aaron, know you are in my heart and prayers.





For now, I'd suggest finding a grief therapy group, of others who have lost loved ones.





You must be shaken to your core, dear young man. I was so thrilled at your boyfriend when you asked a question earlier in the year, and now you are so sad -- I'm sorry.





This grief will not just go away, for you have endured a shattering loss. You will go through all the stages of grief, such as shock, bargaining, anger, depression, finally acceptance. But it will take a long time to fully recover.





You really do need to talk to a sympathetic counselor or minister.





Although I personally believe in God and that your dear brother is radiant in Glory, that doesn't minimize the depth of your loss. Your brother must have been one of the favorite, most beloved people in your life. You saw him grow up from a toddler -- and now he is so suddenly snatched from you.





I'm terribly sorry for your loss, dear friend.





Steve, if you read this -- it will take several months for Aaron to get back to normal, but stay by him please. This is the worst thing he has experienced in his life. He needs you and your faithful affection.





Hugs! Love to Aaron and Steve.





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I'm so sorry, i agree 100% with the top answer -Hugs-

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Sorry to hear of your loss. I would recommend bereavement counselling i.e cruise etc as they are a great help during this time. If possible speak to someone at your college so that they are aware of whats going on and see if they can give you any extra support with your course work. Try and make an appointment with your GP as they can also give out advice in where you can get help with what you are going through and point you in the right direction to what services are available in your area. I wouldn't jump to conclusions with your BF, maybe it's more that he is feeling helpless at the moment and worried about you. He has helped you so far and I would think that he would continue to give you support.





Take care
Firstly i am very sorry for your loss. I would strongly recommend you see a councillor or psychologist just to help you through this. Sometimes friends and parents are not quite enough. I think you would benefit from some professional help especially because it is such a tragic loss and an unexpected one, wishing you all the best....