Looking for help/advice, I'm I really a loser and how I can change.?

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These past couple of days I鈥檝e come to a realization that I've been going thru life these couple of years in automatic pilot, no goals, no fire, no purpose. All this time I've giving excuses to my self and others. I been like this so long that I don't see even where to begging or if is even possible to change. All I鈥檝e doing is thinking and thinking. I believe deep down I'm not a loser. i guest what I鈥檓 looking for is guidanceLooking for help/advice, I'm I really a loser and how I can change.?
Congratulations: The first step to change is to realize that you have a problem.


Now you have to stop thinking that you are a loser, and make a list of what did you always wanted to do, or to study, and begging with this.


You should also look for professional help.Looking for help/advice, I'm I really a loser and how I can change.?
As long as you have hope and the desire to change for better you're never a loser. I've been/was in the same boat as you and realized it last Octoberish, I must admit that Yahoo answers really helps, it helps remind me that I have lived, have done things with my life and have accumulated some wisdom that can help (hopefully) other people. I've also decided and now am doing some things that always made me happy, just because some of my dreams died in my youth, doesn't mean I can't do what I enjoyed, only now without the pressure I put on myself to succeed and go further. Just because I never made it farther than high school in baseball doesn't mean I still can't play and enjoy pitching like I did-I've found a summer recreational adult league and have been working out in preparation. In college I liked to play rock and roll, I never got a record deal but it was fun, so I've found some other dudes to rock with. Make your first goal to be happy and do what you want and what it takes to be so, when you're happy you'll find other goals come along and change is easier to make. Start small, a journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step.
your not sweety,


your just going through a hard time in your life.. eveyone does, i did too. just keep yourself busy take your time and you'll get there honey. it don't happen overnight kiddo. ciao
You see, the fact that you are willing to seek help tells me that you are not a loser. At certain point, a person has to stop complaining and take an active part in changing what he/she perceives as ';wrong'; n his or her life. What about writing a list of what is good about you, what is not so good about you, and what you believe to be wrong with you. Then you go ahead and for the short term goals, you can try small steps to either improve on what is good about you, or to change what is not so good about you. Small steps make the task look smaller. Besides, having a list of what is good about you will give you some perspective that you are really NOT a loser!


Then you have to decide what to do long term: go back to school, change jobs, start an exercise program, start a new hobby, or whatever you think you need to change in your life. Good luck!
we are our worst enemy first make some goals then fallow threw them try small ones at first like make a list of to Dos and fallow threw them do not make a list of 100 try 5-10 and finish that off. help the elderly deliver food to them do something for your community and it makes you feel better it has proven to help people in a good way like meals on wheels or helping with the salvation army or any honest organization it will make you feel like a winner . hope this advise will help out
hi, you are not a loser you are going thru what many people are going thru myself and others i know this world seems to be overwhelming most of the time you are already on the right road by asking for help my advice is to make a plan for your life and go for it the sky is your limit you can do it!
You're not a loser. You just have to find the fire in you and let it out. I recommend reading this book ';Your Sacred Self'; by Wayne Dyer and you'll be on your way to making changes in your life.


I found that book when I was at my lowest and was having suicidal thoughts. This was the book that saved me.
I am the exact same way... just that i have been pushed to do stuff that is how i went to school and got a full time job... But i feel the same way because i am not internally happy with what i have done with my life... i am married but that is not enough... i feel empty and that i still need to do more stuff to feel complete... don't feel bad i do too
Why on automatic pilot? You are the ONLY one that can really change your life (along with the help of God). You just have to make a decision that this is what I want to do, this is what I want to be and get up the next morning and put one foot in front of the other and do it! You CAN be all that you WANT to be and do all that you want to do! Every day every one of us have the same decisions to make about our lives.. we just have to do it! I believe in you!! Hang in there! Believe in yourself! and DO IT!
If you recognize you are wrong, you have taken a big step. Next one is to get help from someone that can help u professionally. Mayebe a therapist or a social worker.
Well for starters,you need to know that losers don't know that they are losers so let's drop that b4 we start.Second,you are not alone in this and you CAN change.First you need to change your attitude.You are an important part of OUR world.You CAN contribute and make a difference .In the great scheme of things it's the little people in our world{I'm speaking metaphorically}who make a difference.What is YOUR idea of sucess?Figure that one out and go from there.You CAN be whomever you want.Just look at Flava Flave.He can't sing but he's a recording artist, he's not much to look at but people love watching his show,He came from a poor background and now he's rich as Crocus.All you need to do is LOVE YOURSELF.YOU CAN DO THIS.Hope this helps and good luck to you.
start making small goals for yourself and stick with them. and i recommand reading some good books. there's a lot out there can change your view point of life. I recenlty reading Rich Dad, Poor Dad, by Robert Kiyosaki. i didn't learn to become a business person. but i learned something for other uses. like broadening my view point of life and human relation, the idea used in business but you can use them on sth else........or go back to school. talk to some friends, get ppl's similar experience and ask how they go over it.


i sometimes feel i am a loser but i never give up. i believe i will make it someday





good luck for both of us
I know the feeling. I am 31 years old and at one time life held promise for me. I had a great job, car and despite my retarded upbringing, I was destined for success. Then I screwed it all up. I was depressed so i quit my job and ended up on a disability pension because of severe depression and anxiety. I crashed the car I worked so hard to pay off and I didn't have insurance anymore. Now I'm stuck in this house thats miles away from town so I have no way to get anywhere. I have gained weight and smoke cigarettes and I'm also a pot-head. Even the house I Iive in is a write-off. I get so sick of being stuck here that I give up on cleaning it. So now I sit here, with my house a distaster feeling fat and stoned and useless and hopeless. I KNOW I need to change but it's so hard to know where to start!! Good luck on finding your path in life. I hope we find a way out of our self-inflicted predicaments soon.
just think what you have in life don't think what you did not have wen ever you have life hope thinking you b naver a looser
The smoothest way to start is with body language and mindset I believe. You've already sort of done that with your last line, believing that you're not a loser.





When you walk and talk with authority, and by that I mean holding your head up, shoulders back and relaxed, straight up posture, with a smoothness to your walk and the ability to maintain eye contact people will respond to you differently and you will feel differently as a result. You'll notice eyes watching you in a positive way and smiles.





From there, you have to figure out what it is about yourself that you want to change. Lose weight? Dress better? Know more about basketball? Whatever it is, these are ultimately perogatives you set for yourself in your mind that tell you what to do with your life. The idea is to fit the image you see in your mind as closely as possible. Then start slow and just work at changing those things through gained information or experience, whatever your style is.





I promise if you do that you will feel tremendously better about yourself. I've always found that knowing gives me confidence, so if there is something you are unsure about, then research it and understand it. The more you know, the more prepared you are to handle life's obstacles. Good luck.
find something you're interested in and learn as much as you can about it. go to college and get ready for a new career. get active in your community. do some volunteer work somewhere
Hi there





You are not a loser!





The best thing anyone can do for themselves is realise when they're not happy with their current situation - and you've done that.





So often we can go through life, doing things our hearts aren't in.





The most important thing, in my opinion, is to know yourself. Know what you want to do in life and make positive steps to achieve what you want to achieve.





All the best