';How can I cope with all the pressure I'm facing to be a better christian?'; One need not be Christian to know the basic answer to this question. The basic answer is that you need to put you relationship with God above your relationship with your peers.
It sounds to me like you are feeling pressured from without to be a better Christian. When your drive (pressure) to be a better Christian comes from within and you focus on trying to please your God instead of trying to please people you will have found the path to being a better Christian.
If you work at being a better person; then you shall please your God(s) regardless of what your religious affiliation is.
The complex issue is why do you feel a need to respond to peer-pressure so that you will be identified as a better Christian in the eyes of others? If you put you relationship with God above your relationship with your peers it will naturally follow that your need to please your peers will be lessened.
Some day you will take a stand and declare to someone for the first time that your relationship with God is just fine and that if they think otherwise that the problem lies within them and not within you. You will make this declaration many more times throughout your life. But making that declaration from your heart shall be a turning point in your life.Christians, I really need your help/advice?
If you want stronger faith or more patience just ask God for both? Remember, however, these are qualities that He will see that you have an opportunity to build into your own character. In other words, you will be tested; there will be trials. He never said we wouldn't be tested or tried, only that He would be there day to day and see us clear to the other side.
The best gold is purified by fire, same as your faith.
When these thing come, praise God, you are growing. Your salvation and the helps which God provides at the point you are born again in the spirit, will continue to enable you to grow in stature and wisdom in the faith. You will not be so easily swayed. John 3:3 and Romans 10:8-10 are relevant scripture verses.
In your relationships, as a christian, be gentle but wary. You are not to be antagonistic but also certainly not a doormat, for those who would tempt you into a direction that would take you in a way opposite from where you know you should go. As a teen, you are a babe in Christ, physically as well as spiritually, you will grow and your faith with you.
Why do you think you need a god to help you? Life is full of pressures, and also full of joy. The key to success is to find the proper balance.
If you have identified the problem you need to work on, you are already halfway there. Now you have to identify different strategies to resolve your identified problem, and choose the best strategy to employ. Then, you have to employ it.
Practice makes perfect. Good luck.
You need to relaz and think ';God made no one perfect!'; he made us all different and when he made us all different is so that we learn lesson's! when we learn lesson's we face diffilcaulty's and stresssful moments! So you just need to think of a time when you have a best friend. You were at home sitting to your self and then a friend email's or call's and spill's all of there problem's like jelousey and cussing about it. you probably go along with it but from that moment on you do the exact things when you are stress's. so when your friend is cussing about somebody you should just say ';this is horrible maybe we could have a calm conversation at my house in an hour?'; you alway's need to calm down
hope this helps??!?!?!?
You are still young and living the Christian life is a life long journey. When you were a little kid learning to walk you fell down many times before you could walk then run. Its the same with our faith. Trust in the Lord to lead you and when you fall He will help you up. Grow in trust of God and it will be easier. God Bless.
You need to daily read what God has to say in his holy word. Read the Bible for a stronger faith.
I understand how you feel. I'm not a teen anymore but I will be honest with you- you face a lot of pressures as an adult too. Be faithful though- as you get older you get better equipped to handle them!
Ah, the ol' welcome mat syndrome. I know how you feel there too, that was me! It's hard when you have a big heart and just want to love everyone and please everyone. It would be the end of the world if you thought you upset someone or made them mad at you, right?
Easier said than done, but, my dear you can't go on that way. People easily take advantage of you and will continue to do so. While you are doing it out of love and caring people are taking from you out of selfish greed. You spend so much time worrying about others that you constantly put yourself last, right?
Well, the first place I would start is talk with your youth pastor, and possibly one of the leaders from your church's women ministry-- preferably with at least one teen of her own. They will understand and be able to offer you sage advice.
Take a step back and analyze your current friendships: How are they impacting you spiritually? Do you find yourself working hard to maintain the relationships? Is working to maintain those relationships easy or stressful? Are there any friends that you hang out with whom you can confide in about anything at all? Think about someone, out of your group of friends, who you completely trust.
It's easier to surround yourself with people who share the same hopes and feelings that you do, who are also experiencing the same struggles. This way you can help keep each other accountable and offer support.
If you are hanging around with kids who think it's ';cool'; to do x, y, and z yet you feel in your heart that x, y, and z are totally wrong: Don't do it and stay away from them. TRUST ME, the cool kid stigma ends when college starts. After college that kind of stuff doesn't matter anymore. The adults you see later on in life who are still trying to live the same way they did in high school are struggling, big time. It's very sad to see and it's also very true.
I have quite a few friends who are still trying to live out their high school years by partying and doing all sorts of junk at the expense of their faiths. I still love and encourage them, but, because I'm not a joiner and not into peer pressure I distance myself.
I've learned to put God first in my life and you know what, the rest falls into place.
You aren't alone in your struggles, I'm sure many people beside me can relate. Keep your head up and hold onto what you know to be true and live it! It's hard to imagine now but believe me, when the years go on you'll see what I mean about how things change.
Peace to you. :)
/HUGS
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