Regretting a Mistake. Need advice. Help?

Recently, I had a job offer that was more money (25% + more)and promotion. Because of greed of getting more money than the original offer, I held back. Because of my mistake, the deal fell through and the employer hired someone else. This has been really bothering me. It has been nearly two months now and I can't get past this. I cannot even focus on my current job and my family. I don't know what to do. I feel like I missed out and it's bothering me beyond words. I have never felt like this before. Call it crazy, but I sometimes even get to tears. Help! How can I overcome this? How would you rank this in terms of a regretful life event? Thank you for your help.Regretting a Mistake. Need advice. Help?
grow up and move on, if this is your only problem you should be happy.Regretting a Mistake. Need advice. Help?
It happens to me all the time. An event, or a thing I said will bug me for so long and keep me awake at night. It makes me feel so stupid!!! But you should not worry. You just have to stop thinking about it. Think of the good stuff. A mistake is only there to help you. You'll learn from it and never do it again. I'm sure next time, it will be different.
We are not all the same, some sail through this sort of 'trauma' as if it were no more than a write of passage - part of life's university of ups and downs - others, such as yourself and many many more have a personality trait (not flaw) that needs to put everything in order and to have some sort of closure on a personal event of this magnitude.





As time goes by this painful and unsettling outcome that has in your mind's eye played a dirty trick on you will relinquish it's not unsubstantial hold on your daily outlook on life and you too will eventually be strong enough to lay this troublesome ghost to rest and allow your self to move forward.


To move forward you may need to talk to a professional - your MD/GP who may wish to refer you to a specialist/councillor





Allow yourself to forgive yourself, what happened


was human nature - you can call it greed if you wish but it was not greed, you were only trying to do what was right for you and your loved ones.


Forgive yourself you have wronged no-one least of all yourself.


I hope this passes soon for you - good luck..
We ALL make mistakes, and some of them really make us sick, but usually they happens for a reason. You may have a better offer in the future. Just hang in there, and dont stop looking and dont give up!
You need to remember that regret one of the feelings that helps you to not make the same mistakes. However, it serves no purpose if you just dwell on it. Regret is about the past and dwelling on the past moves your life nowhere. You're human, and humans are susceptible to greed. Just stop punishing yourself, move on and remember this feeling next time.
let it go,you can't live in the past
A mistake is just a concept that we invent to consider our current and future actions. For example, we can say that to put our hands in the fire is a mistake. This reminds us that we do not want to do that. In reality, of course, every thing goes in accordance with the laws of nature without any mistake. The true mistake is to assume that you could have done otherwise. Don't do that mistake. This is the worst of all mistakes. It makes you suffer. You did in accordance with your nature. Don't regret. Be happy, learn, progress, and yes don't do something if you know it to be a mistake. In particular, don't think that you did a mistake in the past because it is the worst mistake. You did what you had to do. Just happily accept the consequences, and learn, progress.
Dear Hurting-


It occurs to me that if it was I mulling such a ';mistake'; to the extent of which you speak, and it has been, and sometimes it continues to be, something I do, I would wonder two things. Was it a real mistake? What if your inner voice said whoa! Taking this job is the mistake. I don't know why I feel this way but I may be willing to take the risk. However not for this amount of money. Therefore I will ask for that amount I am worth in this case. Secondly, I wonder if realizing you are capable of greed just like the rest of us isn't a bit of a surprise burden. If that is the case it is better to know of that bit of moral elastia, or hiccup than to go down that road eyes closed. Deal with it on a case by case basis and you may find yourself simply human.
Geez - it's only money, pal. By stressing over it, you're just repeating the same mistake. You lost because of greed, and now your regret is fueled by greed. Forget about it and look ahead - AND STOP BEATING YOURSELF UP!
Well, dont concentrate so much on the missed opportunity. You did what you thought you had to do at the time. Now you know better right? Think of this as a learning opportunity.


Sometimes knowledge comes only with a hefty price.


The next time, you will be in a better mental position to make a decision that is right for you.
I think you need to work on acceptance. When we keep working through stuff that happened in the past (over and over and get stuck) it's usually because we are refusing to accept the truth. What about this is making you rehash this all the time and feel bad about it? If you can figure that out, you can figure out how to move on from it.





Everyone makes mistakes. What you learn from those mistakes is what determines what your future will be like. You learned a valuable lesson. Take that into your future and learn from it because that's all you can do--can't change the past.





Also remember -- if you got that job, which pays 25% more, then you can get another job that pays that much more too.





Forgive yourself for holding back, learn from the experience, and move on. The only 'regretful life event' is one that you don't learn from.





Good luck to you.
When one door closes, another opens.





You have a job that pays and a family that loves you. Count your blessings because things could be a LOT worse. Money is important to live off of but, it's bad to live life FOR it. Money can't buy happiness regardless of what people think.
Forgive yourself. We all make mistakes in life. More opportunities will come your way if you leave this behind you and strive towards a more rewarding future. What is done is now done and you cannot live your life regretting this action. You may not realise, but sometimes there is a downside to something that looked so great to begin with. You made your choice at the time so accept that choice and be happy with it. You have obviously learned that wealth doesn't get handed out on a platter and that you need to work hard for it. This is not a huge misjudgement on your part. It is a totally forgivable mistake. Please don't be so hard on yourself. You will succeed and you never know what is waiting around the corner for you. Good Luck and Best Wishes for the future.