My boyfriend lied to me for a whole year about something big! I need advice. HELP!?

My boyfriend told me about 2 months after we had been going out that he had sex with just one person. He said that he was pressured in to it and he regretted doing it.Well with me being a christian (and he is to but just not very much)..I don't want to have sex until i know i will be with him forever. It kind of upset me that he had sex with someone but i got over it. he should have saved himself for the person he will be with forever.ANYWAYS....we have been going out for a whole year now and just last night he told me that the first time he had sex was when he was 15!!!with some girl he didn't even know while he was on vacation.that's how he lost his virginity! he's had sex with two girls! I COULDN'T BELIEVE IT! HE LIED TO ME FOR A WHOLE ENTIRE YEAR! one girl was enough for me. It really upsets me and I can't stop thinking about it! How could he keep something that big from me...he knows evryhting about me i thought i knew evrything about him. It really hurts. How can I ever trust himMy boyfriend lied to me for a whole year about something big! I need advice. HELP!?
For one, people make mistakes. Maybe he didn't tell you because he was worried that you would get upset.


Two, this is the past, and if your not willing to let something go, when he didn't even know you yet, then who's really in the wrong? Its not like he cheated. Sure he lied, because you were a Christian, more so than him, and he didn't want you to judge him right away.





I say you give him a chance, after all, its not like you were around when he did it. He made a mistake and he DID tell you, even if it was a little late.





I hope everythiong works out for the 2 of you, and the best of luck!My boyfriend lied to me for a whole year about something big! I need advice. HELP!?
You can't. If he lied to you not once but twice about who he's had sex with chances are he's probably thinking of doing it again or already has. Find someone who will be true to you and your beliefs because eventually he will just tell you to have sex with him or he may leave you. So why waste your time now.
everyone has a secret and sex is sex hun. sadly not everyone saves their selfs until marriage and dont see it as a big deal unlike females.





sex to guy is like a football game. they can have sex without emotion unlike most girls.





at least he told you, so be happy. that shows you can somewhat trust him
hunny you should tell him how that makes you feel


why did he lie to you in the first place??? dont hold it in girl, you have to talk to him about it


maybe he was ashamed of it?? you never know hun


so ask him, talk to him about it
once a liar, always a liar dont compromise your values for anyone, especially someone who lies to you because in the end your values and convictions is all u have
you don't trust him. try to get yourself in a good relationship and use your new boyfriend to destract you from your old one.
wait im confussed it sounds like he had sex with 1 girl when he was 15. he just didnt tell you he was 15. but if he did have sex with 2 girls then i would leave him
Let me just say I have been in your shoes honey. My gf cheated on me and lied about it for a year. After that I said she said I have trust issues. Well hello you cheated on me and lied about it. Your bf will tell you that o I didn't want to hurt you or lose you. My thing is this you never get over it and can never trust them. If they lie about what happens when something bigger happens. Btw since we broke up I found someone thats honest and keeps her legs closed
He's a guy. I can't name one single, guy friend of mine thats a virgin. Christian or not. That might upset you but its just a reality, people saving themself for marriage is very rare now a days. Many people are choosing not to get married too and just live together. I'm Christian, fell in love with a guy, who I swore I'd be with forever, and had sex with him. After alot of bad mistakes he made I don't know if I'll be with him forever. How do you ever know that? You love someone, you trust them, you think you know them, and then something happens - that they do, and you end up possibly being wrong about this relationship. He could've been afraid to tell you knowing your beliefs in this. Especially if this is something he may possibly have felt a bit ashamed about. At least he ended up being honest. It isn't always easy to get the truth out. Don't yell at him for it, tell him you're hurt he didn't tell you sooner but he needs to know for the sake of your trust in him and your relationship together that he has to come to you with the truth always. You'll do the same. If he wants to be with you and is mature, he can handle that. I know you have Christian beliefs and morals, as do I, very much. But reality is very few people, end up saving themselves for marriage.