My boyfriend lied to me for a whole year about something big! I need advice. HELP!?

My boyfriend told me about 2 months after we had been going out that he had sex with just one person. He said that he was pressured in to it and he regretted doing it.Well with me being a christian (and he is to but just not very much)..I don't want to have sex until i know i will be with him forever. It kind of upset me that he had sex with someone but i got over it. he should have saved himself for the person he will be with forever.ANYWAYS....we have been going out for a whole year now and just last night he told me that the first time he had sex was when he was 15!!!with some girl he didn't even know while he was on vacation.that's how he lost his virginity! he's had sex with two girls! I COULDN'T BELIEVE IT! HE LIED TO ME FOR A WHOLE ENTIRE YEAR! one girl was enough for me. It really upsets me and I can't stop thinking about it! How could he keep something that big from me...he knows evryhting about me i thought i knew evrything about him. It really hurts. How can I ever trust himMy boyfriend lied to me for a whole year about something big! I need advice. HELP!?
this is why i think he didn't tell you.





waiting for sex matters a lot to you and he knows this.


he felt stupid for having sex with these two girls and regrets it.


he didn't want to screw up what he has with you and wasn't sure how you'd take it.


so he didn't necessarily lie, he just kept it inside so you wouldn't get hurt.


he's a christian. jesus has already forgiven him. i'd advise you to tell him how you feel and forgive him as well.My boyfriend lied to me for a whole year about something big! I need advice. HELP!?
He probably didn't want to tell you because of how you're reacting. Not everyone has the same views as you. Just because he has had girlfriends in the past doesn't mean you can't trust him.
Ok so he had sex with 2 people before you. You forgave 1 but 2 is where you draw the line?. So if he was honest about having sex with 20 women right from the get go, would you have forgiven him then?





What I'm not understanding is that are you upset about the numbers or are you upset that he hid that info from you but at least was honest enough to tell you b4 marriage.





If you forgave him for 1 then you could forgive him for 100, and if you did I would be more worried about other things (like STDs) rather than impressing Jesus.





Seriously, if the guys virginity status is that important to you then maybe you should screen better next time..

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