Help! Me and my fiance have been trying to conceive for over a year, and nothing's working. Any advice for me?

We have sex about 3 times a week, I don't know if something is wrong with me or what, but I know its getting really discouraging. I don't wish to be on fertility drugs or anything like that, I want some tips on the best way to conceive naturally. I get the ovulation mucous every month, which leads me to have sex more at that time, but I guess its not working. I would reallly appreciate some help from someone who has been through this.Help! Me and my fiance have been trying to conceive for over a year, and nothing's working. Any advice for me?
I am with you on this one. I have been trying for 18 months and we have both been checked for fertility - all's ok. I think us ladies stress too much about it and that doesn't help. However, some people say try doing it 5 times a week and your most fertile time is around 14 days after your period has started. I have just started charting on this site http://www.mymonthlycycles.com/home.jsp this way i can check my cycles and it helps with calculating when I should ovulate. Some people also say positioning while having sex can be important but remember it is important to stay laying down after sex avoid standing or sitting up this helps the sperm get to where they need to be. Listen to me anyone would think i'm pregnant!! lol. Just for your information my gynie said he does not say you have a problem until you have been trying for 2 years.


Maybe when the time is right it will happen. Good luck and hope your wishes come true.Help! Me and my fiance have been trying to conceive for over a year, and nothing's working. Any advice for me?
first off. Get married first. Then just settle down and don't rush it.


When I was trying to get pregnant I was really trying. Trying tooo hard. Then I just quit trying and then found out I was pregnant.


Also before you get pregnant both you and your Husband should go get checked out to see if you are both fertile and healthy.
Hi there....





Maybe you want to try taking prenatal vitamins. They make you fertile. Other then that, you know what they say. practrice makes perfect!!





GOOD LUCK
*This is advice I just posted above your question, and i may help you. I am not a doctor, but I play one on TV. Just kidding.


*Not to sound vulgar, but here goes. Missionary position with a pillow under her butt. Man does his thing and when he ejaculates, he pushes in ALL the way and lets it shoot. He then stays that way for about 30 seconds, letting himself drain and acting as a plug so the sperm can get swimming. he then withdraws slowly and as he does, she lifts her butt up slightly to once again stop drainage. She then pulls her legs up and hugs them for a couple of minutes. That is about it and it has worked for me and my wife two times. A few pointers. Let your man save up for a few days. I know it sounds like torture but maybe build him up (come on, get creative...can you say handjob without letting him orgasm?) Then he will be at his greatest shooting trajectory when he finally lets go, thus ensuring the greatest possibility for getting the finest swimmers well on their way. You, as the woman, must know your fertility dates and have him do his thing at the optimal times. It's not too complicated if you know your cycle.


Good luck and have fun.
Get a copy of the book Taking Charge of Your Fertility by Toni Weschler. She gives great explanations of how it all works and ways to naturally increase your odds of conceiving. You will learn alot about your body and fertility from this book. Good luck!
This is the best piece of advice!!! After ur fiance does his thing in you, elevate ur hips and make yourself have an orgasm. After lay there and mayby take a nap with hips still elevated. What happens is after you orgasm the cervix acts like a suction device sucking the sperm up into the uterus increasing your chances of conception. I did this with both of my kids and got pregnant the first month of trying. Good luck
First have a run up of your blood. Then I would purchase a fertility monitor. My sister tried for two years and became pregnant within 3 months of using the monitor. Try e-bay there cheaper. If this is not the root for you speak with your doctor ASAP.


Good luck
Hi there...





I know this isn't what you want to hear but this is what I've learned after 1 year ttc. Just becasue your getting the mucus doesn't mean that you're ovulating. You should have a progesterone blood test on day 21 of your cycle (the day you get period is day 1). This will tell the doctors if you are even ovulating. You may need Clomid or a drug like that to make you ovulate. In my case my progesterone level was only 1.2. This is very low and told them that I wasn't ovulating al all. Since you have to ovulate to get pregnant I needed something to jumpstart that process. According to my OB/GYN we could have had sex forever and I never would have ovulated. I took Clomid 50 for 3 months and hte levels are still not high enough. I am starting on Clomid 100 this cycle. Your Progesterone needs to be in the 10+ range if you are ovulating.





Otherwise....Good Luck!! We're in this together!


-Donna
First off, don't listen to everything that is said on this forum. If you are in a steady relationship and feel ready for a baby, then go for it! Anyway, my husband and I have tried for 3 years, and we were like you. I didn't want the fertility drugs. And there was plotting my temp and checking the mucus and all these things that seemed to take the magic out of the situation. Sex had become a job and things were looking grim. 2 miscarriages and a lot of tears later, I decided to just stop trying. It was the hardest thing I ever had to do, but... It worked. I filled my life with things to take my mind of babies. Please note that all my friends, all 3 of them ,all had children within that 3 year frame. Some even had 2. Talk about unfair. But it will happen for you. From a medical standpoint, ask your doctor to test your progesterone. That is what was causing 90% of my problem. And it's an easy fix. Good luck, and don't forget that trying is the fun part!
Maria! First Off.. You have to ENJOy the sex part. Dont do it thinking about a baby.... just enjoy..


Then go to the doctor.. make sure that you are good to go.. (its worth spending a little $$$) then... eat health.. baby needs lots of protein.... Now... If you are trying that long I will tell you what doctors will... after making love... don't stand up ... just lay down for 2 hrs... (because you are having problens) that will help the little ones get to its destination... Avoid lifting heavy stuff...


The first 5 weeks is really sensitive.,, So.. if you like the beach and watercrafts... like jestki.. this is a time to say goodbye... even riding a horse,,,, from the inpact it can complicate the baby's steps... drink lots and lots of water!


To know the dates that you are ovulating.. count 14 days from you 1 day of period... 3 days before and 3 days after the 14 so.... 11, 12, 13, 14, 15, 16,17 is your ovulation... (if you have a 28 cycle) then make sure youmake love...on yes and no dates...


11 no, 12 yes , 13 no, 14 YES, 15no, 16 yes 17 optional.


Good luck my friend. I wish you the best of luck!
Maybe baby is waiting for you to get married first.
u mean my fiance and i